6 weeks pregnant huge argument with my husband

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I’m six weeks pregnant very tired, nauseous and a stressed out high school teacher. My husband has been frosty all evening and when I asked him what was wrong he said he feels “left out” and that it’s “not all about me”. I’m feeling awful at this stage of my pregnancy and very anxious. I probably over reacted but I cried uncontrollably and swore at my husband calling him a d*head. I’ve never been rude to him before. Is this hormones? Will this kind of row upset the baby?

Well it kind of is all about you right now, what a big idiot. No, it won't upset the baby, it doesn't have a brain yet.

Your husband needs to man up. Or at least not take out his anxieties about the pregnancy on you. One row won't harm the baby, but excess levels of cortisol over time aren't great, so you need to figure out how he is going to better support you.

Congratulations on your preganvy.

Oh please dh needs to read how a womans hormones are at breaking point at times when pregnant.

I wouldn’t stress about calling him a d-ckhead, he needs to wise up and NOT be a needy dh. Am sure the baby will not be upset by your actions.

I’m nearly 6 weeks and a teacher too. My husband and I rarely argue but I was quite unpleasant to him at the weekend. I felt like he’d been off with me for days and sniping at me. He never does so probably me not him and I had a real go at him. I felt awful afterwards. He made me feel better by saying he thought it was because I was anxious. We’ve been fine last few days. Phew! I would say it’s hormones. Try not to worry. Your baby won’t be aware of it at all either xx

I had massive rows with my now ex DP during my second pregnancy. DC2 was, and is, absolutely fine though.

Your situation sounds really normal though. Your hormones are all over the place and feeling sick is bound to make you feel ultra crap. But your DH is still just getting his head round the whole thing. It's an enormous change for him to take in too - so I wouldn't be too hard on him. Just accept that it's really stressful for both of you right now, and you're taking the stress out on each other. The middle stage of pregnancy is generally a bit easier. Don't be too hard on yourself for now

Thanks everyone I feel like an absolute monster. I never shout and swear so am more upset about losing control! It’s so out of character for me!X

I think you had reason to be upset tbh. If he is saying things like that at 6 weeks in, I would be worried what he is going to be like for the rest of the pregnancy. The next 30+ weeks are pretty much all about you and he needs to make his piece with that. There are obviously things that you can share as part of the pregnancy and becoming parents but he needs to get on board and be ready to support you.

I think you’ve been calm tbh. I threw a muller corner yoghurt at my husband when we argued at 26 weeks pregnant 😂🙈