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Difficult Miscarriage

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Elaine1977 · 07/06/2018 09:23

Hi all,

I have had a few miscarriages in the past so when I found out that I was pregnant this time I was told to be checked at the EPU.

My pregnancy was going really well. I had to be checked every 2 weeks at the EPU with internal exams to see how my pregnancy was progressing.

At my 3rd internal exam with this pregnancy at 9 weeks, they could not detect a heartbeat. Me and my husband was left devastated. They wanted me to go back again in 2 weeks to check whether they could detect any signs of a heartbeat. I went back in 2 weeks for another internal exam to confirm our fears there was no heartbeat. Unfortunately, because the baby was too small, the midwife could not class it as a failed miscarriage. I was told that another appointment in 2 weeks would be needed. The midwife informed me that if I had not miscarried naturally that I would be given the tablet or a procedure would be needed.

A week later and I did start to bleed naturally.

I kept my appointment the following week to check that everything had passed, but unfortunately they informed that I still had 20%ish of it left. It was travelling down my uterus, so they ensured me I would pass it soon. They did not want to give me the procedure at this point, due to the little amount I had left, which I completely understood and didn't really want the procedure if I didn't need it.

I was made another appointment in two weeks again. I was sure this time I had passed everything, as I had heavy bleeding and passing very big clots 5 days previously. I was still bleeding, but only slightly.
Once again though, I was told I still had not passed everything. This time it had travelled down my uterus and I had a large amount of blood and a very big clot in my cervix.
The midwife was very lovely and sympathetic of how long it was taking to pass and how many times I have had to go back in for scans.
She informed me that it would pass that day or the following, due to its position. She did ask if I was in pain, as a lot of women find it difficult to sit once it had travelled down to the cervix. I was completely fine, a little discomfort, but I'm used to a lot of pain anyway due to a spinal fusion I had a couple of years previously.

I've had a small amount of bleeding since seeing the midwife, but not very much so unsure if everything has passed yet.

I've been bleeding for nearly 5 weeks now.

I've had three previous miscarriages and they all have happened very fast and I have not bleed as much and for as long as this time.

It has been 9 weeks since I've been told there was no heartbeat and I can just not move passed it until I have passed everything.

Has anyone any advice?

Many thanks xx

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mumofmunchkin · 07/06/2018 12:37

I'm sorry I've no advice, but just wanted to say that I'm sorry for all you're going through xxx Flowers

Miloarmadillo2 · 07/06/2018 12:47

I'm really sorry, that must be horribly distressing and I'm sure you just want it all over with now. Have they offered you medical management? It might be a halfway house between an ERPC and more waiting for it to pass.
Have you joined the recurrent miscarraiage threads? You'll get a lot of support there. I had 4 losses all at 8-10 weeks and eventually got my rainbow baby after treatment from Prof Quenby at Coventry. I hope this is the last time you ever have to go through it. Flowers

Elaine1977 · 07/06/2018 14:49

Thanks so much for replying. No they haven't offered me any medical management. I'm unfamiliar with it, does it help?

This really gives me hope that I might be able to have a child one day. Thank you.

Really appreciate your message. Xx

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Elaine1977 · 07/06/2018 14:49

Thank you. Xx

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