Feeling fed up - looking for sympathy, Was at hospital this morning with spotting, 22 weeks pregnant

[Hopeitwontbebig]

Hi all, I'm fine really, just feeling REALLY fed up and sorry for myself right now. I had some spotting last week, (post coital) and was checked out, all stopped later that day. This morning woke up and wiped small amount of red streaking. Decided to go to different hospital, to see if they'd do anymore tests. They were lovely (Oxford Radcliffe), and did internal exam aswell as scan which showed that baby is perfect and no problems with placenta. It looks like the spotting is due to problems with cervix (erosion or something). I'm also in the early stages of developing SPD so need to get in to see a physiotherapist.

My DH is a sweetheart and really supportive and is giving me lots of sympathy. However my friends in RL don't seem to understand how stressed I am, and make comments like 'now you can relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy'. It kind of makes me feel like I am overeacting getting so upset. I might add, I don't keep phoning them going on about it, it's only if I have a problem I tell them, but all the same I have explained that I am finding it v distressing. It's not been the easiest pregnancy, had spotting at beginning, along with some dodgy scans showing an 'odd' placenta which has thankfully sorted itself out.

I guess the stress is starting to catch up on me, my DH was only in hospital in November after being knocked off his motorbike in a hit and run. Think it's getting on top of me TBH, just want peace now.

OK needs wise words to sort my head out, not in a good place right now.

it's totally natural to be stressed-but I hope that you are reassured by your latest hospital visit.

I had quite a big bleed at 32 weeks into my first pregnancy and so I know how upsetting it can be. They never did tell me what was wrong-monitored and everything fine. But I continued to worry non-the-less. It is hard to put this out of your mind, but hold onto the fact that clearly your baby is fine and happy x

aw, poor you Hope things get less stressful. I think you are reading far too much into what your friends say. But you're pregnant and very hormonla so it's understandable!

It must be a worrying time for you but hopefully you'll get some reassurance on here.

I had cervical erosion throughout my last pregnancy and also had a major one-off bleed at about 23 weeks.

The cervical erosion, I was told by GP, is down to changes in the cervix during pregnancy. This can be aggravated, for example, by intercourse. They never found a cause for the big bleed I had but thankfully it was a one-off and DS was born at 39wks and was fine.

Thanks so far ladies.

Bloody hormones can't stop this intermittent weeping!

just go with it and have a good cry xxx

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Oh hon,it sounds like you have a lot on your shoulders. I've had problems with cervical erosion and a couple of minor bleeds. My friends also said 'now you can relax' when I was cleared but you don't feel like relaxing do you? I used to feel as if I was just waiting for the next problem to rear its ugly head. Do our friends have children? I''ve found my friends with kids are (broadly speaking) much more understanding on issues such as these as they know the worry you go through for 9 months.

((hiccup)) ((sniff))

Poor you Hopey. I'm also 22 weeks and have problems. I can totally relate to your 'bloody hormones and intermittent weeping line'. Sorry in that I can't offer any advice about the spotting, as its something I haven't experienced.

Am I right in remembering you have a couple of lo's already? Do you find that people seem to assume you've got it all under control because you've been pregnant before. I do. In many ways it can be lots harder. For one thing you have to keep on going for the lo's don't you? And its so bloody knackering, both physically and emotionally. So no wonder you're feeling weepy. It also sounds like you've developed a lovely bond with your new baby already.

I think there's a kind of invisible line with freinds sometimes. We all ask niceties of each other, but quite often people find themselves outside of their comfort zone if you don't just answer "I'm fine thanks". I'm finding this really hard, people know I've not been well, but when they ask how I am, I struggle to know what to say. I really wish I can tell them how effing lousy I feel, but half the time I worry I'm boring them to tears. So I don't always tell them.

Anyway, remember the positive points: you've got mn to offload if your rl freinds aren't helping; you've got a lovely dh; you're over half way through now; you've found a good hospital that sounds thorough if you need them again; the tears are coming out - don't they say better out than in?

Remember to remind yourself how lovely you are. I really hope that spotting stops now and that you start to feel better soon. PS: might have to hijack your name, with all the steroids I've got to take, they've told me to expect a big'un.

(Sorry, very rambly and not very helpful. just wanted you to know I care. )

((waves back kinki))

You're so right on every level, it's like you plucked the thoughts right out of my head. Def right about 'better out than in'. Your post made me cry - in a good way!

Big hugs to you, hope you're ok. x x x x

PS thanks for the tissue ((sniff again))

I'm ok. I keep reminding myself that I'm just 2 weeks away from the mental milestone of 24 weeks where the little baby has a chance of survival if anything really bad happens. Try not to be too worried about your baby. Didn't really mean to make you cry. I've got a whole boxful of lovely soft tissues if ever you want to share.

It's SOOO stressful this pregnancy business isn't it. Don't worry about making me cry yesterday, I think I needed it!! I'm feeling much better today.

x x x