I’m 38 and pg with number 2.
We started trying in August 2016 when ds turned 2. I tracked my cycles religiously, and for some months did opks, but mostly just made sure we dtd every other day or thereabouts throughout my fertile period of my cycle.
We had a chemical in December 16, but otherwise not a hint of a BFP.
In dec 17 we decided to stop trying, as we didn’t want a gap more than 4 years between dc really, I wasn’t getting any younger, and we were so stressed and exhausted by the whole thing. We gave it one last month in January, but then decided enough was enough, knocked it on the head and started to come to terms with ds being an only. We booked the holidays we had been putting off, ordered the new kitchen we couldn’t afford with 2 dc, and made peace with the whole thing.
Then, 1 drunken fumble in February, which was literally the only time we had sex that whole month, you guessed it, BFP! Just coming up to 16 weeks now. So those people who say, “stop trying, stop putting pressure on yourself and it’ll just happen” that I always dismissed, well they were right!