If one more person tells me my bump looks small I’m gonna punch them!

[coastalchick]

25+1 today. Had a MMC last August so been super anxious in this pregnancy. Worried bump not growing and people keep telling me it looks small which makes me freak out even more.

Why can’t people mind their own bloody business?!

I feel exactly the same! Why people feel the need to comment is beyond me and the things they say (I have had the same comments about my bump and then had to go for a growth scan - all was fine) but they just fuel the panic, people should just learn to button it!!

Omg I feel you! We're much early than this and only told a select few but nearly everyone I've told so far had some sort of "help" or "advice" - basically their opinion, and some of them were so narrow minded it's uncomfortable to be in the conversation with them! At the moment I'm smiling and changing topic but I can imagine I'm going to start just handing people a business card with f*ck off and leave me alone written on it

I had that all the way through my pregnancy (I’m 5 foot 7) and somehow didn’t put on loss of weight despite eating loads of junk food. So imagine our surprise at having to have a emcs after failure to progress and producing a son weighing 9lb 12! The doctor and midwife couldn’t believe his size (& neither could we!) so ignore everyone’s comments, I bet your bump is perfect.

Thanks ladies. Other people are just so annoying. Also had MIL lecturing me about my birth choices (which decision not been made yet, still considering!) on Sunday.

Just want to tell people to butt out - my baby, my body - but of course o can’t just tell them to F off!!!!!!

I feel your pain, at work, it went from "oh, wow, you'd never know you were pregnant." To "oh, are you having twins, hahahaaaaa." In about the space of about 2 months.

Smile and nod, smile and nod. Or actually tell them to F off and use pregnancy hormones as an excuse...

I like that excuse!

I got told the same all the way through. It was my first so I was more surprised as I thought I was massive!

I'm 38 weeks and even until like last week people were telling me my bump was small, which is funny as my fundal height measurements have been pretty much exactly the same as my weeks gestation since I recovered fully from HG by around 28 weeks, and on my personalised growth chart this shows the baby at being consistently in the 90th+ percentile and pretty large/heavy!

Thing is, I have quite a lot of the risk factors for a small baby so am under consultant care so it def freaks me out!

I did say to the person “oh don’t, I’m really stressing about it” but she’s quite a bossy busybody so I’ve no doubt she won’t take that on board!!

I said that exact thing to my husband this morning! One more person who comments on my bump is going to get throat punched!
I’m 27+2 and I keep getting the “where’s your bump”, “you’re tiny” remarks
I’m naturally really small so I was never going to have a huge belly! I just can’t understand why people feel the need to make a comment. If I put on a huge amount of weight and waddled around at 16 weeks they’d soon be commenting about that (behind my back more than likely!).
It doesn’t help when you’re already worrying about your baby’s health. Some people should be muzzled!

Just had ANOTHER comment!!!! So I’ve sent an email to the two people concerned (at work) asking very politely if they could keep their comments to themselves as it’s msking me anxious and panicky.

I wish people would just fuck off!!!

I had this and I've previously lost 2 babies so I was very anxious. My baby ended up being 9lb9 so it shows you just can never tell from a bump. Everyone is different. Pregnant is a worrying time without people saying stupid things. I had a work colleague say how someone she knows is pregnant and she's really tall and she looks great. I'm tall but clearly didn't look great 😂

That was me. I was fairly small the whole way through. I was sick of the comments. I once got: are you sure you're actually pregnant. I replied: based on the number of times I've thrown up this morning I'd certainly say so.
It's pointless. Ignore them

Ignore them, it's incredibly rude. My best friend carried very small in both her pregnancies and had two healthy sized babies. Didnt show until about 30 weeks. She looked about 25 weeks pregnant at full term. She's slim but not particularly "petite", it's just how some people carry.

Wishing you all the best for the rest of your pregnancy.

Well, he’s measuring 27cm even though only 25+2 so goes to show what do they bloody know?!

Thanks for all your well wishes x

The pharmacist last week told me I must be out on my dates because I’m far too small for seven months...
I told her that the last time I had sex was exactly seven months ago about an hour before my husband walked out on our family, so I was pretty damn sure of my dates and to mind her business.
Some people just carry small. Every appointment (30+4) he’s right on size!

Don't get stressed. I never bought maternity clothes and never looked pregnant, so much so that an A&E doctor asked me if there was any chance I was pregnant when I had an anaphylactic attack. My DH said yes and he then asked when I was due, to which DH replied, 'Saturday!' DS weighed 8lb 7oz.

People are so thoughtless. Good for you for telling them how you feel - it’s natural to be anxious and you don’t need people adding to it. A friend of mine had the opposite issue with people saying things like “gosh you’re huge” and was quite upset by that too. It’s amazing how people feel they have a licence to comment on everything when you’re pregnant. I picked up some mozzarella in Tesco at lunchtime and some nosy old bint piped up “I hope you’re not planning on eating that”. I gave her my best death stare and said I was planning to stuff it in my ears so I wouldn’t have to listen to people’s incorrect and unsolicited advice any more. At least three people giggled!

My twunt of a boss said my bump wasn’t a bump and I’d just eaten too much on holiday!

You’re only 25weeks, it’s meant to be small. I was barely even showing, definitely didn’t look pregnant.

@TryingToStayRational - that made me laugh out loud for ages - brilliant!

Just want to tell people to butt out - my baby, my body - but of course o can’t just tell them to F off!!!!!!

I wouldn’t tell them to fuck off but I would tell them that it’s not ok for them to comment.

Also, you mention your MIL commenting on your birth choices.... if I were you I wouldn’t ever mention any details about the birth or pregnancy to anyone. If anyone asks just say you haven’t decided or you don’t want to discuss it. Make sure you don’t tell people your thoughts on names until AFTER the baby is named.