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Pregnant, confused

5 replies

CoventGardenSoup · 05/06/2018 13:19

I have no-one in real life to talk to about this.

DP wasn't sure about trying to DC2. Many, many heart to hearts were had where we both explained our positions. Following the last one around Christmas, we commenced unprotected sex. Now I am pregnant. I was really excited - I'd been feeling broody for a while. Unfortunately, when I told DP, he said he thought he'd been clear in our discussions that he didn't want another and didn't want it (but wouldn't force me to get rid of it).

I mean, how could I have got it so wrong? The fact that he agreed to unprotected sex, how was I supposed to know he still meant he didn't want another DC?

Now all excitement is gone and all I can think about are the worries - money will be tighter, space will be tighter, time for DC1 will be tighter, is it fair on DC1, will we break up, etc etc etc. It's still very early. One of us from DP and I seems will always resent the other, and I feel bad bringing a child into this knowing one parent didn't want it and how will I bond knowing this? On the other hand, he says DC1 is the light of his life, so maybe DC2 will become that too? I don't know what to do. I should phone the midwives for my booking appointment but I keep putting it off. I don't know what I want from this really, just need to put it down somewhere.

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RaininSummer · 05/06/2018 13:23

Congratulations x Your DP sounds like a total fool - what did he think would happen if you kept having unprotected sex?? He can hardly say he didn't want it since he did absolutely nothing to prevent it.

LittleLoveXoxo · 05/06/2018 13:40

bit strange that he would agree to unprotected sex but gets angry when you become pregnant... have you asked him about this? thats not fair, hes putting the blame on you when you both agreed to do that. congratulations anyway please dont let him bring you down, im sure once baby comes he will fall in love with baby and be over the moon xx

Viola82 · 05/06/2018 14:11

I'm a little bit confused..
You want the baby or you're not sure if that's a good idea? you have one already, you know what it means, you know your income/spendings/situation. you haven't think about it before?
He kept telling you he doesn't want the baby. Is there a chance he might be thinking you're on some kind of birth control?

Havetothink · 05/06/2018 17:35

He'll get over it.

Wellthisunexpected · 05/06/2018 18:54

What contraception were you using prior to TTC? Either you heard what you wanted to hear or he wasn't clear. And if you were using condoms pre TTC then he's an idiot. What was the conversation which lead to you having unprotected sex?

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