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In laws don’t seem to care..

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Thegirlhasnoname · 04/06/2018 17:52

We are expecting our first baby in October and my in laws don’t seem to give a whatsit that baby is happening. When we told them they either went “oh” or just changed the topic entirely. I’m far from expecting a massive song and dance about it but a simple congrats (however sincere) would have been much better received than just ignoring it I think..

I’ve been with the dad (their son / brother) for ten years and we’re getting married in a months time, from what has been said to my face and how they react to me I have no reason to believe they dislike me but their reaction to the baby news just has me stumped. This will be the 10th grandchild in their family so I get that maybe they are just bored with baby news but a massive song and dance was had whenever a baby was introduced before. Maybe it is just me.

I’m just having a little rant here and at the end of the day, it will be them who miss out (me, my OH and my family - who are over the moon - have more than enough love for the baby already) but I’ve had a little cry about our child’s future today, thinking that one half of it’s family don’t seem to want anything to do with them and they aren’t even born yet so who knows how bad it will get when they actually arrive.

Even if you don’t care, you don’t have to be blatantly dismissive of news like that! We aren’t the type of people to throw our lives in others faces and quite shy (which is why it took us a while to even tell people) so it’s made me unlikely to share things in the future.

Rant over!

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Spanglyprincess1 · 04/06/2018 17:54

My in laws are the same, their loss not yours. Good luck with your baby x

PositivelyPERF · 04/06/2018 17:55

Is it possible they’re disappointed that you’re pregnant before you get married? Not that I agree with them.

Thegirlhasnoname · 04/06/2018 18:13

We’re going to be the only ones that have a baby when married so it definitely isn’t that!

I’ve just got to keep telling myself that it’s their loss (and spranglyprincess1’s in laws too). Once I get over my little wobble I think I’ll be better, it just got me down a little especially since when I was little I was really close to my cousins - baby’ll just have to make do with the ones from my side!

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buttonup26 · 04/06/2018 18:22

My MIL made a comment that her NDN's cat was pregnant too when I told her.Shockthat's all she said!!
Only her second grandchild and our first baby.

Havetothink · 04/06/2018 18:27

Maybe they were expecting it so it didn't seem like much of a surprise?

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