38 weeks, anyone else struggling with housework etc? My back is DONE!

[Fedupxmum]

Ugh! Struggling so much now my house is a MESS! Depressing the hell out of me. Tried to get some things done today but I just couldn't get much done, no matter how hard I tried. . I'm sick of having to ask DH to do things for me. He helps and does things but it's just not right, the house still looks a dirty mess. He is so slow that it's like torture. Like if he hoovers he will hoover the dining room and hallway and then have a cig break, which takes him half hour, then he will carry on with the rest (living room, kitchen) it takes him an hour to do the dishes and then he leaves the draining board/sink all scummy and horrible. If I ask him to help with dinner he disappears in the bathroom for an hour cuz all of a sudden he needs a crap. I am grateful he does help but it's not how I have things and I feel like I shouldn't criticize his efforts but it's driving me insane as I was fine up until a few weeks ago. I like cleaning and hate having my house in a state. I have a tonne of crap I need to get on with but I'm just struggling, I need more help. It's just a shock going from cleaning every day to now not being able to do much of anything. Anyone else in the same boat? Any tips on how to get hubby to speed things up and get stuff done? I have my c section on the 14th so not much time left.

I would suggest trying to let it go a bit, some help from DH is better than none and you'll probably struggle to get everything done with a new baby too. Have you got other family/friends that could give you a hand here and there?

Ah I am in the same position tbh fedup. DH does what I ask of him but he doesn't do things unless I ask him and I usually have to ask about 5 times so I feel like a huge nag which isn't fair when I normally just do things and don't need to be asked to keep our house tidy! We've had conversations about it and he gets all upset when I get upset and says he will do better but nothing really changes...I've told him he needs to step up because when the baby comes I don't want to be landed with an even more disproportionate mental load! He is also much slower at doing things than me too like your DH although he does do an excellent job when he actually does them. There are a few jobs that he has always done so washing up is one of them anyway but now there are things I cannot physically do anymore such as hoovering or cleaning out the guinea pig's cage so he has had to take on more stuff. It's not actually as bad now I'm finally on maternity leave for the past week (I'm 38 weeks now) but I think my last month or so of work was really unequal as I think I was going most of the chores whilst working full-time and being heavily pregnant and he was swanning about at uni not even full-time hours and not doing much around the house because he had two exams to revise for. We've had a serious conversation about that now but who knows how things will go in future. Like you I feel bad complaining because I know my DH is genuinely fantastic compared to lots of the other cretins you see being complained about on MN lol but I don't think we should settle just for 'better than lots of other pricks'.