Comments about weight

[RBM9]

I’m 20 weeks pregnant and have gained a stone. I gained a stone before getting pregnant too after my honeymoon. So I’m currently two stone heavier than I was this time last year when I was a comfortable size 8-10. A few of my close family have commented on my weight recently (not in a nasty way) but I feel so down about it. I feel fat and flabby and just want to get my old body back. I know it sounds selfish but I’m scared that I’m only 20 weeks now, so what am I going to weigh at 40 weeks? I don’t feel like I’ve been eating more; I don’t actually think my eating habits have changed. I’m really scared I won’t be able to lose the weight. Someone please reassure me they did?

Oh you will. I ate for England with DS and was back to pre-pregnancy weight in 5 months after his birth.

I found the 2nd trimester the worst for putting on weight as you're tired and hungry all the time (well I was). By late pregnancy I had such bad heartburn and baby was taking up so much room I didn't eat as much.

Your family are rude...

OP I am you, slim tall size ten in January for our wedding. Gained nearly a stone after, honeymoon, not doing the whole super restrictive pre-wedding diet and not going to the gym 4 times a week anymore, thought I'd give myself a little break. Tried to start going again felt dizzy and light headed, found out I'm pregnant have gained another 10 pounds since , I'm not quite 13 weeks. I feel huge, none of my summer clothes fit, I don't think I'm eating vast amounts but used to eat only 1200 calories a day, definitely can't do that now. I'm off out to get some floaty summer dresses later. Anyone making comments about a pregnant woman's weight is insensitive at best, why are pregnant women fair game for people to just say what they want??

You need to tell them it makes you feel like crap, and they need to stop. I don't go round routinely commenting on people's weight, but some people think now I'm pregnant they can comment on mine/my body shape/size of bump. I just say something back to make them feel uncomfortable so they think twice!

I was the same as PP, living on 1200 calories before my wedding, lost about 2.5 stone for it. At 27 weeks I'm up 2 stone, some of that is pregnancy weight and some of it is weight I'd have put on anyway when I stopped the 1200 calories. Hope you feel better soon!

Another wedding weight gain story. Got married in September 9st 2lbs (very low weight for me), by Christmas I was 10st 4lb, found out I was pregnant a couple of days after Christmas, now I’m 10st 12lb.

I was annoyed that I had put on so much weight before getting pregnant but honestly there’s no point in worrying about it now.

You’re growing a baby, your weight gain is mostly outside of your control now, and it’s generally not recommended to try and lose weight now.

Worry about losing it after when the time comes.

This is me!! I put on over a stone after getting married within a year. Then found out I was pregnant and at 27 weeks have now gained a stone and 10lbs this pregnancy. People made comments like called me fatty or said wow your bump is big or talked about how women can lose weight after being pregnant even though I hadn't mentioned diets. I started to cancel all my plans which is sad, people are so cruel. In the end I found the best way to deal with it was to tell people in advance of seeing them that I was a pregnant whale using the little whale emoji and told them I was feeling super self conscious. This in turn has made people start being overly nice telling me not to be so hard on myself. I also found investing in good quality maternity clothes from jojo maman really helped my confidence as they fit well rather than making you feel frumpy. I hope you are OK, try to ignore the negativity, people can be really thoughtless and I think in their heads they assume a pregnant women doesn't mind being told she is big.. Idiots!! Xxx

@olive1988 Thank you so much for your reply. I was so happy with my body last summer (after working really hard before my wedding to get it) and now I just feel like a giant spud. All my friends are so lovely and say “embrace it and stop worrying what you look like” but it’s so hard to isn’t it? Especially when I’m used to wearing nice bodycon dresses at the weekend and now they probably wouldn’t fit over one thigh! Thank you again for your reply - it’s just lovely to hear someone in the same sitautaion x

@moita thank you for the reassurance my lovely x

@FASH84 I hear you! We sound in exactly the same situation. I was a regular spinner and gym goer too and when I go now I’m just a panting wreck. I think it’s so important to talk about it, a lot of my friends say stop worrying etc etc but it does make us sad and there’s nothing we can do. Thanks for sharing! X

@louella99 I was also on 1200 calories! I can’t believe how similar we all sound in this post!

@Nichola2310 Yup! We definitely all sound in the same boat. I too was annoyed at the weight I’d gained pre pregnancy and then bang I got pregnant! 😂

@RBM9 i live by the seaside so have been trying to go for walks to feel more active, but DH keeps suggesting ice-cream or my absolute weakness lemon ice, and my willpower is not strong right now 🙈. I'm just trying to stay active, focus on baby and I'll be back on that spin bike in January , ok maybe February!

OP, these people saying that are not nice.

I put on FOUR stone in pregnancy! I was huge, and very tiny beforehand. 5 weeks after giving birth I have 16lb left to loose. Honestly, if just got to the point where I embraced the fatness and grossness. It's worth it in the end.

OP, these people saying that are not nice.

I put on FOUR stone in pregnancy! I was huge, and very tiny beforehand. 5 weeks after giving birth I have 16lb left to loose. Honestly, if just got to the point where I embraced the fatness and grossness. It's worth it in the end.

You don't need extra calories until the last 3 months when you need only 200 calories a day extra.

I have friends that piled on weight and regret it now as they are still fat and late pregnancy was difficult for them. It's not good for you, and not good for the baby. Being overweight increases the risks of pregnancy complications.

I would address it now.

People will undoubtedly say things like 'I embraced the fatness and grossness. It's worth it in the end', but pregnancy is much easier and healthier if you don't pork out.

@EdWinchester you’re absolutely right and I totally agree but as it says in my original post I haven’t changed my eating habits. It would be hard for me to eat less than I’m eating; today for example I’ve had 2 boiled eggs for breakfast on toast, a chicken salad with a wholemeal pitta and then a jacket potato for tea and been on a two mile walk with my dog. I am definitely not sat gorging on food. I guess the pregnant body just holds on to food and water way more! But I will “try to address it now.”

@strawberrysparkle wow what an amazing achievement! My friend was similar she gained 40 lbs and lost 20lbs within 2 weeks without doing much. You go girl! X

I have gained weight a lot so far at 35weeks but tbh I'm planning slimming world post baby and going back to my exercise regime so not too concerned.
Baby is healthy so far and that's main thing. Enjoy your pregnancy and don't push yourself too hard, your body needs energy for the baby to grow

I'm a little further gone at 34 weeks but I completely understand how you feel ! I was a comfortable size 8 before pregnancy and weighed 10 stone at my 10 book booking in with midwife ...I weighed myself around a month ago and I had put on 3 stone.. so since that day I have refused to look at the scales again...I do think what I'm going to look like after and it does make me upset because yes growing out little ones is the most important but we are still us in there also and we are allowed to feel upset about the weight gain 😌 Once baby is here the weight will go some quicker than others but we will get there 😌