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Pregnancy after loss - good news stories please!

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Bwe123 · 30/05/2018 23:31

Hi all,
I had a MMC in October last year and have been trying to conceive since.
I have been lucky enough to fall pregnant and am now approaching 6 weeks but just feel incredibly anxious.
I don’t have any children so I don’t know what being pregnant “feels” like, but other than being more tired and grumpy than usual I have no other symptoms. Am I just lucky to have no symptoms, am I just worrying after last time? I hope so, but some positive stories would be great - everything I have found has been sad news.
Thank you xx

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GetTheeToAShrubbery · 30/05/2018 23:40

I’m really sorry for your MMC loss. I had a MC once we started trying again after DS1. I got to about 7 weeks and then started bleeding and I knew what was coming.

I felt empty, it was the worst experience I’ve ever had. We took a little break from trying but I ended up falling pg again about 4 months later and DS2 is now 3 years old. I felt on edge for the first half of that pregnancy although it did get better when we paid for a reassurance scan at about 8 weeks, and again after the usual 20 week scan.

The difficult thing is you’ve had the pregnancy bubble burst for you so soon, it’s hard to refocus when the rose tinted goggles come off. You know it can go wrong and you fear it happening again. All you can do is take each day as it comes.

Congratulations on your pregnancy though. I had very few symptoms in any of my 3 pregnancies apart from mild nausea and bone shattering tiredness so I don’t think that means anything significant. It didn’t feel really real to me until I felt movement around 18 weeks or so and then when I started to show. I hope everything is plain sailing for you now!

Pandapoppy · 31/05/2018 02:25

I had 3 miscarriages before my first little boy and then had two more. Am now 28 weeks pregnant with a little girl. It definitely makes you more anxious especially early on in each pregnancy. I just had to keep reminding myself that each time was a new and completely different pregnancy and that no one knows which ones will work out. There’s not much you can do except take care of yourself and wait and see what happens.

Mousefunky · 31/05/2018 10:19

I had two MMC last year, one was discovered at 11 weeks following some brown spotting and the other was a complete shock at the 12 week scan.

I am currently 17+4 with a boy and everything is going fine Smile. I have no idea why my miscarriages happened and I still grieve for them but I am even more grateful for this baby.

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Bwe123 · 31/05/2018 13:58

Thank you all for your replies-just need to try and keep positive until there is a reason to feel worried.
Xx

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EverythingInItsPlace · 31/05/2018 14:01

I had a MC at 15 weeks with my first baby. It was devastating. I got pregnant again about 7 months later (5 months trying). Baby is now 8 months old, super healthy, he's an absolute delight

And as far as I recall, the first pregnancy had worse symptoms than the second

usernotfound0000 · 31/05/2018 15:19

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a MC last October and that baby would have been due next week. I'm currently 16+3 and so far, so good. The worry never leaves you though, I found a scan around 8 weeks reassured me but I was still analysing every little twinge and I was convinced something would be wrong at the 12 week scan. Best of luck to you.

moomoo85 · 31/05/2018 17:18

I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks in November. Am now 16+6. I have found that I am still getting a lot of anxiety but my growing tummy and the small amounts of movement that I am starting to feel is helping a bit. I found that the only way I really got through the first trimester was to be quite pessimistic sadly.

Mousefunky · 31/05/2018 17:32

Agreed with moomoo. That is how I survived the first trimester this time. I told myself it was all going to go wrong anyway so best not to get my hopes up. I know that sounds dreadful but it really helped me deal with it and created an even bigger surprise when all was fine at the first scan.

Flatwhite32 · 31/05/2018 17:37

Sorry for your loss @Bwe123, but congratulations on your new pregnancy. I discovered last August that our baby had no heartbeat at the 12 week scan. We'd had a healthy 8 week scan, so the shock was huge. I'm now 32+3 with my second pregnancy. I'll confess that I've worried a lot in this pregnancy, but I've just taken everything one day at a time. It sometimes helps to look at overcoming milestones one at a time - e.g. The 12 week scan, 16 week midwife appt, 20 week scan etc. Best of luck with everything. Xx

farine · 31/05/2018 17:40

I had a MMC at 12 weeks with my first pregnancy. I am currently playing in the garden with my second pregnancy - a very adorable and entertaining four year old.

Wishing you all the best for your pregnancy

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Bwe123 · 31/05/2018 21:24

Thank you everyone and congratulations to you on all of your positive outcomes - it just goes to show they are out there!
I hope mine will be a positive story for others in the future too (fingers crossed) xx

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