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so i am 8 months pregnant giving birth soon. i was studying but had to take a break from the university. My boyfriend graduated the previous semester before this one which i took a break from. i still have 2 more years till i finish my degree. My boyfriend and i never planned to have a baby, the time we wanted to abort the baby, she was already big and we had no choice but to keep. i have grown to love her now more than anything. my BF told his parents about it and he really didn't tell me what they think and i told my mum, my father is late and she supported me and she wants to talk to him and create a relationship. my mum hopes i finish school and get my degree. so i sat down with my BF and i asked him what was the plan when the baby comes considering i am just a student and my mum already is struggling to pay my school fees and he has already graduated. so i didn't mention this but me and my boyfriend are from different countries. so his decision was will stay till the baby is at-least a year and he will take her to his parents as he returns home to try look for a job or build his career. my worry is i do not know his family, i do not know if i will ever see my baby and when i told him my worries he just asked me if i could take care of the baby alone and told me to think about it. any opinions?

Hi sorry, didn't want to read and run but I haven't got much advice. I would also be concerned about sending my baby away to live with family in another country especially if I had never met them. Would it be possible for you to wait and have the baby and then re asses in 6 months time? Maybe his family can come visit for a short period or you could go there?
I agree that you should finish uni but having a baby doesn't mean you can't do that either. There are sometimes grants for undergrads that help with childcare. Maybe you could look into something like that?

I could not have been parted from my baby like that when she was one year old, no way. Could you do an open university degree or something like that instead?

I would also not be able to let my child go abroad to stay with family I do not know. Are there immigration controls between the two countries? If there are you really need to think this through. Would the child have both passports? Will you be able to join them after you graduate? You do not want to leave yourself in a situation where you are unable to join your BF and child.

I would rather postpone my studies and live off pennies than give my child away and what's more I think you'll probably feel the same once you meet them - no one will be taking that child anywhere.

Don't agree to anything. See how you feel and wait. Don't be pressured.

Speak to your university about your concerns, you may be able to go part-time and then get a job along side this? I went to university when my baby was 9 months I lived at home with parents, uni full time and worked in the evenings, studied at weekends. My earnings paid for childcare. It’s hard work but so worth it in the end