Anyones dh/dp said 'no more babies' and lo and behold you got pg?

[LilyLoo]

Just wondering really what happened when said baby arrived ?
Dp had said he was happy with 2 and i had kind of resigned myself to that. However have found out i am now pg. Dp said he is happy as he knew i really wanted another one. However this follows a turbulent year for us in our relationship and i am now wondering how things will be when baby arrives.
Obviously all situations are different but do men come round to the idea afterwards ?

Hi, my DH was adamant he didn't want any more, we have two boys. I tried to pursuade him for 4 years, but eventually I managed to draw a line under it. He was almost killed in a hit and run last yr where he was knocked off his motorbike - this made him change his mind, and we're now expecting a little girl in September

TBH I'm still amazed that he changed his mind (I think he is too!), but he's started to get excited now. We were both a bit shocked because I got pregnant so quickly, it took some getting used to the idea.

I suppose that's all things in perspective isn't it HIWBB. Tbh i think he will just take it in his stride but am whether that may change when the sleepless nights kick in.

dh and I had been trying for a third - cause it was something I wanted and dh was not totally against it. The first two times - happened pretty much straight away so as time went on - figured it wasn't to be. We then had a nightmare trip to Ikea and decided that the ratio of one adult per child was fine ( my eldest has sn) So on the way home from Ikea I said to dh - right - two is fine no more.

We were not to know I was already pregnant at that stage - so too late. No3 is now 8 weeks old and can't imagine not having her.

We were also concerned as dd2 was a very demanding baby - wondered what dd3 would be like - she is a dream - slept for chunks of night time right off, feeds beautifully. This time round we actually remember the first 6 weeks of her life. With dd2 it was just a round of no sleep and struggling with bf.

dh is fab with dd3 - adores her as he does the other two.

if they were that bothered they would get a vasectomy IMO. my dh did

We'd thought about a 3rd just after having DD as she was so much easier compared with DS. We felt less enthusiastic as time went and we got more tired with both, but we didn't decide against it either. Or so I thought when back in November DH was telling some friends "we'll see how it goes", which has always been our stance on getting pg, i.e. not "actively" TTC. Then I got pg and DH decided that we didn't in fact want another one and was so unhappy he brought up having a termination. We've had a really tough time these past 2-3 months, the worst period in our marriage (14 years soon). DH spoke to the GP about a vasectomy, a decision he took on his own, but she's started him on ADs and is referring him to a psychiatrist instead as she thinks he might be depressed. I'm 19 weeks pg and he hasn't been to any hospital appointments with me, never asked how it went (even after CVS), doesn't know I've felt the baby moving for a few weeks now etc. So I don't know when DH will come round to the idea. He adores DD, I'm sure he'll be OK with the new daughter too. He just needs a kick up the arse to stop behaving like he's mortally wounded and offended. I hope the ADs will kick in soon, before we need Relate. You're in a different situation as your DH is happy about it. Congratulations on your new pg.

DH was very happy with two boys, to the point of suggesting a termination when I found out we were having 3. He now adores DD, and I suspect feels rather guilty.

Thanks everyone, i'm sure he will and now appreciate i am in a much better position than a lot of people.
Christina i hope your dh comes round to it. Flightattendant when is the baby due ? He is a fool.