Mc? Probably

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I’m meant to be 10 weeks pregnant going by BFP and ovulation. I measured 6 weeks 2 days at my scan 2 weeks ago. So baby was small but we were told there was a strong heartbeat and he had some growth (but not as much as should be) compared to the scan a week earlier.

I am now having red blood but no pain. Some tiny clots but nothing bigger than a few mm (sorry tmi!). I’m certain this is a Mc. Midwife said to wait and ring if it gets heavier (I’m due a scan on Friday). What I want to know is what do I do now? I’m not filling anywhere near a pad yet and it’s mostly browny red blood but this may be because I have been lying down trying to relax a lot. I just want to know how long to expect before things really start going as I am off work now and I don’t want to be a skive when actually I could probably be at work.

I’m just worried if I go to work I’m going to suddenly get that rush that everyone says happens with a MC and I don’t want to be out of the house when things start happening properly. Any advice?

I feel quite detatched atm as I was expecting this after the baby measured small and I think possibly I haven’t quite had the emotions hit me yet.

Thank you x

Sorry you are going through this. I never got a 'rush' just light then steady bleeding for 1 week. Only half a day of clots too when baby came out. There isn't much you can do. Lying down won't help physically, as all the blood just pools then comes out when you do stand up.

Personally, I'd try to go to work and see how you feel mentally and emotionally. Physically I was fine but once I got to work I realized I couldn't cope and went home. Just take care of yourself. Your scan on Friday should show what is happening.i hope it's a positive outcome for you.

@Wellthisunexpected thank you for sharing and for your kind words :-)
I think the problem is I’ve had this since Friday night now and still nothing major has happened. Might sound cold but I just want it to happen so I can start to move on.
I’m worried about work because while I don’t want them all to think I have become unreliable I am also terrified I will cry if someone asks if I am pregnant (which a few people have as I haven’t been drinking etc). I am fine atm if I just pretend it isn’t happening and potter about in the house.

Yes I know lying down won’t stop the inevitable :-( just feel a bit exhausted atm with all the waiting etc but I am going to try going out this afternoon with the dog and hopefully that will get things moving.

God I’m sorry if I sound like I am cold in this I just want it to be done so I know where I am and I can start to heal.

You don't sound cold at all. I was the same, just wanted it over with once it started. My bleeding was just like a light period, I expected heaps of blood and pain so was surprised.

And I didn't mean don't lie down, do it you want/ need to, whatever gets you through. It's shit isn't it.

On don’t worry I didn’t think you meant don’t lie down :-)

Yes very shit, it’s gone on for weeks now and I knew something wasn’t right as soon as they said I had my dates wrong. Everyone was so focussed on the strong heartbeat when I just wanted to scream because I knew it wasn’t going to end well.

I never had a gush either with any of my miscarriages. Just slow and steady blood loss. I’m so sorry OP 💐

Still no worse :-/ it’s literally just little bits of blood (I don’t think I’ve even had enough in total to fill a pad since yesterday). I hate not knowing what’s going on, I thought when I got my BFP it was plain sailing, how wrong I was :-( very naive obviously

Hi. I'd recommend not going to work and staying in your comfy clothes. I miscarried at 10 weeks and lost a lot of blood, lots clots and doubled in pain. Take it easy and look after yourself xx

@Whitley83 sorry to hear of your loss :-( thank you :-) I’ve spoken to out of hours midwife today and she is going to try and book me in for a scan a bit sooner as she says it does seem to be going slow? I have some relief almost that I won’t have to wait until Friday to know for sure what is going on. Today a friend on the phone mentioned ttc again and how long till we could. At first I was cross because I thought how could I consider that right now and then I started thinking, so now I have guilt for the baby I’m losing. This can all be so crap.