Find out sex of baby ?

[orchiddaisy]

To find out the sex, or not?
It's so difficult! I'm impatient to find out, but everyone saying it's so special if I wait!

What are you thoughts/experiences?

I hate surprises so I found out with both! Never regretted the decision!

Surprise with first one, found out with this one. It made this pregnancy have something different about it from the first, which has helped replace the lack of novelty 2nd time around! Also we found we were really struggling with names this time so knowing the sex means we have a bit of an easier time.

Same as BossWitch, we had a surprise with our first and found out with our second. Both equally as special (to be honest I’m not sure how the birth of your child could be any less special just because you know what it has got between it’s legs). It was as much of a surprise at 20 weeks as it was at 40 weeks!

We didn't find out with either pregnancy and still managed to get organised with everything before they were born.

However, we don't have the option to find out here as it's local trust policy not to tell the sex at scans and we couldn't fork out £150 to go private. If we had the option I think we might have.

Found out with ds because I had this "gut" feeling he was a girl...

Haven't found out with this one because I have no strong feelings either way. I'm now 37 weeks so I guess I'll be finding out pretty soon.

I needed to know who I was talking to massively impatient personality

Found it with Dd and will find out with this one either at 20 week scan or will go for private scan if baby is in awkward position. Far too impatient. And I want to have a few little gender specific outfits picked. Everything else is gender neutral incase there is another baby after this

Found out with all of mine but kept it quiet. This time I know and no one else does! Not even dp. I hate surprises but am a great secret keeper 😀

Found out both times. We had the scan for no2 10 weeks after my Dad passed away. I cried when we found out he was a boy.

Ohh most of you chose to find out! I would struggle to find out and keep it t myself! I would completely tie myself up in knots trying to keep the secret!

I'm finding out!

I found out both times, so much easier in terms of clothes and choosing a name. It’s ‘special’ enough having a baby you don’t need to make it any more ‘special’. I felt like I needed to know my babies before I had them.

I found out with my dd (now 3) I'm pregnant again so will probably do the same again because apart from anything else, if it's not another girl I can clear out the boxes and boxes of baby girl stuff and buy some boys things as after this one - the breeding programme will be complete!!!!!

My partner however didn't want to know last time and doesn't this time but I just want to be a bit practical about stuff really!

We wanted to find out. At a scan earlier than the one they ask if you want to know (I was a paranoid pregnant person after mcs and had loads of scans) DH suddenly said "It's a boy, it's a boy!" and the sonographer acted surprised and said "Oh yes, I think you're right!" Bless her, she probably knew all along lol!

I didn't find out with DC1 but only because the hospital wouldn't tell me. I was certain I was carrying a girl so it was a surprise to find out I wasn't!

I did find out with my next two. I liked knowing what I was having beforehand.

Drama What do you mean they wouldn't tell you?

We found out because my partner wanted to - I felt like I got to experience all the baby movements etc, so wanted him to be able to feel connected too. I’m always curious why people think it’s any less of a surprise to be told at 20 weeks rather than 40.

@Frasier not every hospital will tell you, ours has a don't ask because we won't answer policy, they told us that the scan was to determine the health of the baby not the sex.

It was partially down to people trying to file complaints when they got it wrong and partly because people were hassling the sonographer (that doesn't look right but I think it is?!) to tell them what the baby was whilst they were trying to carry out vital checks.

It made sense once they explained it.

Yes I agree. When I mentioned that I though I would find out, most people told me not to, that it takes away from the end surprised, but pregnancy is a long slog, it's nice to get that info part way through and help you and DP get to know the baby!

Has anyone had a wrong sex told to them during a scan?!

AuntFanny Thanks. I didn't know that.

frasier Yes, what YerAuntFanny said. The hospital had a 'don't ask because we won't tell' policy. I did ask if the sonographer could see even though I knew she wasn't allowed to tell me & her reply was 'I've got more important things to do than look for willies'! In hindsight she might have been giving me a clue

I'd moved house & changed hospitals when I had my other two, which is why I was able to find out with them.