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How to tell my dad

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Lilly1207 · 24/05/2018 11:58

Ahhh! Looking for suggestions on how to tell my dad I'm pregnant without actually having to say it.

I'm 9+3 and I feel super guilty that my mum knows and my dad doesn't.

My parents separated about 4 years ago and are divorced. I was and still am neutral in their separation and didn't allow them to drag me into it.

Naturally I'm closer to my mum, she helps with childcare and lives close by so I see her most days, I showed her my early scan photo and she's over the moon.

My problem is how to tell my dad, we're not massively close, I see him about once per month, he takes my DS out for the day every now and again and we tend to get together on special occasions for a meal. He would always be there if I needed him though and is always on the end of the phone.

I struggle to open up to him, my mum was always the one who was emotionally there for us as children. I just know that I can't say the words 'I'm pregnant' to him. And I'm getting stressed about it.

To make matters worse, my mum told him about my first pregnancy when I was 18, he was disappointed and avoided me for a couple of weeks and said that I was ruining my life. Fast forward to now he dotes on my son and is proud of what I've achieved whilst being a mum (college, uni, career etc). But I think his initial reaction has stayed with me.

Can anyone give me any hints or tips to make this easier?

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TheRabbitOfNegativeEuphoria · 24/05/2018 12:25

Does your DS know? Is he old enough to tell his Grandad the good news? We told our parents before our 3 year old but once we told her everyone pretended not to know and she loved telling everyone she was going to be a big sister. Meant all the focus was on her for a while.

Lilly1207 · 24/05/2018 12:29

That's not a bad idea. My DS doesn't know yet, I wanted to wait until after my 12 week scan to tell him. He's 8 and constantly asks for a brother or sister, so I know he will be very excited once I tell him and I'm sure he would love to be the on to share our news with everyone else ! thank you for your response @TheRabbitOfNegativeEuphoria

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TheRabbitOfNegativeEuphoria · 24/05/2018 12:33

No problem - hope it all goes well. I'm sure your DF will be delighted and happy for you.

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