Comments "you're so big" at 22w

[kitty1013]

Please please can you wise ladies advise how I should reply when a school mum says to me at 22w "gosh, you're as big as I was at full term!"
I just muttered something about having had several DC before so that's probably why....but then afterwards felt thoroughly miserable.
Why do people think it's ok to pass comment like this?
And what should I have said in reply to make her think twice about how nasty her comment sounded??
Thank you!
A miserable (fat) Mumsnetter

I am 33 weeks it's my 3rd I do look rather pregnant but... in a shop - shop assistant 'you must be about to drop' me 'oh no I actually have a while to go' her 'when are you due?' Me 'july' her 'oh is it twins then?' Me 'nope just the one baby'. I get its just chat but really - some people don't engage their brain - she was definately not trying to be rude and I was nice and smiling throughout but I was like do you think I want to be made to feel huge!

Congratulations!!

I got the opposite when I was about 25 weeks anyone that knew kept saying ‘god you’re over half way and you don’t even look pregnant HAR HAR HAR!’ And weirdly that used to upset me because somehow I felt like I wasn’t doing pregnancy right? Then at 30 weeks my bump just went huge and then I got the flip side of the bump coin with people saying ‘it’s a very neat but very big bump!’ I was then worried that maybe I was too big.

From the second you announce your pregnancy people feel they have a right to comment on anything and everything so don’t take it to heart because you’ll have plenty more occasions where people will pass judgement or make flippant remarks.

I agree that In response to those comments just stare and say nothing. Don’t give them anything back otherwise they’ll assume it’s okay to carry on commenting. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy!

It's horrible. I get it on a daily basis and am now getting the shocked faces when I tell them I still have 8 weeks to go. Some people are more sensitive than others and that doesn't make it wrong that it upsets you.

Wonder if all the people saying things like 'get over yourself' are the ones who make the comments???