32 weeks and the thought of giving birth is scaring me to much

[Dollydaydream97]

So the whole pregnancy I haven't really allowed myself to think of the birth as I see it as one of those things as you can't tell what's going to happen but today for some reason it's haunting me and I'm generally convinced I'm going to loose my baby during it ? I don't know why as I'm healthy and so is she and I'm young ( 20) so no health issues but I just have it in my head ! I guess because I've not asked questions about giving birth I'm not freaking out ! The pain isn't what I'm worried about it's loosing her ... do they monitor baby's heartbeat constantly throughout? And if not how do they know that baby is okay ? Sorry if this was a mess I'm sitting in the bath crying my eyes out !

Try not to worry, I know it's easier said than done. They can monitor baby throughout, however, this would probably mean you being strapped down with a monitor on your bed and not moving around/being mobile during your labour.

Believe it or not small things like this can play a big role in the way your both goes. Being mobile, moving around and standing up actually help to move things along in the birth process and reduce the risk of intervention. Do lots of research about birth, now is the time to educate yourself on it. And just remember thousands of women do it all over the world everyday and the majority are absolutely fine xx

Pretty much what Maedoula said :)

If you're healthy, 20, have no health concerns and baby is OK you should be absolutely fine 😊

They do regular checks on baby, particularly when you're at the pushing stage, my midwife had a hand held Doppler that she used when I was in the pool and regularly when I got out during the pushing phase. It's normal to find something that will make you anxious at some point. Sit down and chat to your midwife at your next appointment and ask her to go through things with you to help put your mind at ease.

At my hospital you have the choice of two wards. The MW lead ward or the Dr lead ward. I have lost a baby so feel more comfortable with the constant monitoring that you get on the Dr lead ward.

They strap a hart rate monitor to you during labour and the MWs are in control. The Drs are sat in a room behind the scenes with all the monitors and will only intervene if there's an issue.

For example in my last birth from the heart rate monitor they could see each time I had a contraction, baby's heart rate dipped. This was a concern, they said if oxygen was being restricted if need to go for a section, but they tacked something to his head which gave a more accurate read and all was fine. So bit of a non issue, but I'd want to know if there was one.

Being on this ward and in the care of both Drs and MW helps me have a relaxing labour. If the babies heart rate wasn't monitored I'd be freaking out.

As your MW what options you have. 😀