Having a cry

[Spanglyprincess1]

Struggled today 33 n a bit weeks. Couldn't walk around must had to get currency at lunchtime and walk left me breathless and with backache. Drive home from work took an hour during which time had painful cramps which took my breath away.
Get home DP said well your going to struggle with labour if your feeling like this already. I said how would you know and he referred to ex wife's pregnancies.
I'm upset now as feel like a failure cause I'm struggling and I'm worried about labour anyway.
Is he right? Is this a sign it will be bad?

He's an eejit! I found pregnancy really hard. Births have been quick and relatively easy. I always struggled with bad back and SPD. For me it meant ligaments were relaxing prior to birth. So an easier birth. And cramps? You're body is having a practice. But of course it can hurt. And unlike labour there's no end in sight and nobody ever offers you gas and air!

Ignore DP. He is being unhelpful. Try to minimise your activity and find as much time to rest before the big day. When do you go on maternity leave?

Three weeks time for mat leave.
I just feel really low and him saying stuff like that isn't helpful

No, don’t be daft of course he’s not right! You may have a very quick labour. My husband made silly comments when I was pregnant with my first child too, but when push came to shove (literally) I was brilliant if I do say so myself, I knew I could do it as I’m sure you do too and there’s no way of not coping through labour you have to do it whether you like it or not. Ignore him! .... slightly off topic are you going abroad at 33weeks pregnant just with you getting some currency?

Bloody idiot. WTAF does he know about pregnant or childbirth?

Of course you’re not a failure! 💐. You’re growing a human being inside you! Every single pregnancy is different. All you can do is do what you can when you can & rest when you can.

Tell ‘D’P that YOU are NOT his EX wife and that you do not want to hear another word about her pregnancies because YOU are not her & they’re NOT relevant. And get him told that you need SUPPORT not fuckwittery.

Surprised you didn't give him a bloomin slap to be honest! What an unsupportive and unhelpful thing to say.
How you manage with walking around, lugging a baby pressing on your bladder, back, hips and whatever else it fancies has no bearing on how you will manage in labour at all.
Do something kind for yourself this evening, have a long soak in the bath, read a book in bed or whatever else floats your boat and tell Him that if he hasn't got anything supportive to say to say nothing!

Thanks I think I'm so tierd from today that crying just came on easily. Your all right of course.
Yes to Normandy by ferry for a break from work and to spend time pre baby as a couple. Although right now I'm not in mood for it tbh

Honestly I was less tired with a newborn than when pg OP!

OP. I'm 32 weeks on Wednesday and I feel EXACTLY the same, I've actually cried twice today. I just feel fed up, swollen, hot, breathless and tired plus 100 other feelings.

Ignore DH - get your feet up and rest. I've come home, literally stripped my clothes off and put a thin dressing gown on and I'll probably be asleep by 7!

You're growing a human being!! That is flipping hard work, emotional and yes very hormonal. I'm only 29 weeks but have friedy MANY a time in this pregnancy about everything/nothing/something.

DP should be 100% behind you, you're making his baby. He should not in any way compare you to his ex. I mean, she's an ex for a reason right... Despite being 'perfect' at pregnancy!!

I felt better having a new born than being pregnant.

Hope you feel a bit better today op x

Thanks I do. Got a midwife appointment today so I'm going to talk through how much I'm struggling and get some advice and reassurances (hopefully).
I spoke to other half who was confused that I was upset - eye roll. But seemed to understand that from now on he needs to bring chocolate or just cuddle and say don't worry (if he can't think of anything else).

I felt this way throughout my pregnancy, from around 32 weeks or so I really struggled doing anything I’d have to sit down after just walking up the stairs, I’d cry just rolling over in bed my pelvis would hurt and I was worried about how I’d cope with labour pains! But it’s completely different, personally I found it more bearable as I knew my baby would soon be in my arms and I’d no longer be pregnant and breathless!!
Good luck for the rest of your pregnancy and enjoy your new bundle of happiness when they arrive!! xx

I'm 34 weeks on Thursday and always feel like this! I'm only 5ft 1 so I think the extra weight has so much downward pressure!
If my partner had said that to me I think I would I punched him in the arm or something and stormed off 😂
Let him try his best to make it up to you!
Good luck at midwife appt hope she helps!

DP is being an idiot. I have a crap pain threshold, ended up starting Mat leave 2 weeks earlier than planned and managed to get through labour. You're stronger than you think. If you need to leave work earlier then that's ok too - listen to your body. If it's telling you to slow down then do

I have an infection which hasn't helped and may have caused some of the cramps and back pain. So I'm on antibiotics from today.

I defo need to rest more and nap. I'm tall but my height seems to make no difference regarding struggling with the weight of bump bump. :(