Terrified to Miscarry

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Hi, i am currently 4+5 with first baby, found out last week!
It was our first month trying. Every thing has went so to plan for us that i just have this overhwleming anxiety that something is going to happen. Its so bad its all ive thought about the last few days and feel so emotional as if it has already happened!
Im sure its normal to worry in early pregnancy but not sure if this much anxiety is normal!?
Ive taken loads of tests. Clear blue digital has went from 1-2 weeks to 2-3 weeks.
Not really looking for an answer but some reassurance or advice that what i am feeling is normal?
I dont want to sound as though im moaning cause i know how blessed we are to get a bfp so quickly!

It's normal to worry of course it is. But what will be will be.

What you're feeling is perfectly normal.

I think sometimes it's a blessing and a curse being on forums like this. Whilst it's good to get reassurance, I think we see far more examples of chemical pregnancies/early miscarriages/missed miscarriages than are typical in our day to day life.

At the end of the day, you can only really assume that everything is ok until it isn't. I'm 9 weeks and have only just gotten to the stage where I'm not checking my knickers every time I go to the loo for blood. I have no reason to be worried. This is my first pregnancy too - don't let the fear ruin it for you

Unfortunately it's normal to worry but you have to ask yourself, would you regret not enjoying your pregnancy if you don't miscarry? I say this as someone who is 12 weeks pregnant now and has their scan tomorrow. I am absolutely pooping a brick after my mmc at 10 weeks last February. It's been a long and hard journey to get here and after 19 cycles let's just say I would be devastated if tomorrow went sadly.

BUT, I have reminded myself that I have no reason to worry this time, I should enjoy this pregnancy because I will never ever have this time over again. I will never be pregnant with this baby again and I am determined not to let fear battle my joy.

Miscarriage is heartbreaking. But unfortunately there's absolutely nothing you can do to prevent or stop it. You just have to have faith that your body will cope and that baby is healthy. And the rest is out of your hands. You need to chose how you feel, and push forward to feel more positive.

Good luck and congratulations. X

It's normal to be anxious. Not normal to be completely overwhelmed to the point that you can't think of anything else.
Stop taking the tests.
When are you seeing a midwife?

Firstly, congratulations! I am 7 weeks today with our first and I am still refusing to forward plan too much or allow myself to believe this will happen for us. I know that sounds terrible but I am just putting it to the back of my mind and carrying on normal life and trying not to get carried away.

I am an over thinker and a natural worrier so I know exactly how you feel. Just try to stay positive, listen to your body, I haven't stopped doing anything I was doing before but I do rest when my body tells me I need to rest, even if I just sit for half hour of an evening doing absolutely nothing. I am eating healthy which isn't a hard job for me right now because the only thing I can seem to stomach is fruit and I am taking my vitamins.

There really isn't anything you can do to prevent these things happening so it is best to relax your mind and think of happier things.

Good luck! I hope you have a very healthy pregnancy. xx

I think you have to remind yourselves that the odds are well and truly in your favour. 1 in 4 pregnancies will end in miscarriage but that means 3 in 4 don’t! That’s the best and most positive way of looking at it. But of course every pregnant woman shares your anxieties, it is normal and natural and just the beginning of what will be a lifetime of worry .

Thank you so much everyone for your replies.

Hi OP,
Just wanted to point you to a website I found really helpful
https://datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer.php

It's basically stats presented in a really reassuring way. It's great to see the risk going down and down. I found it really helpful so maybe you will too.