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First pregnancy help please

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Pupol2018 · 19/05/2018 17:03

Hi
If anyone has any similar experiences or knowledge of this I would be so grateful. I can’t tell you how worried I am and how much I’m letting this get me down.

I found out I was pregnant 5 weeks ago (I had been tracking ovulation etc). I was overjoyed because we had only been trying for a month and I had a MC many many years ago so I have waited for so long to be a mammy. I am in my mid twenties as is my husband.

At 8 weeks we went for a scan and the baby was measured as 5 weeks 5 days. This worried me as I am sure of my dates but the midwife was happy that baby had a strong heartbeat and said I must just be mistaken. She wanted to leave me until my 12 week scan but because I was a little worried she decided to rescan me in a week.

So yesterday I went back (so one week between scans). This time baby measured 6 weeks 2 days so has only grown by 3 days in a whole week? He still has a strong heartbeat and the midwife had to get a second opinion as she has never seen this before apparently. She was still not overly worried because everything but the size looks positive.
They have decided that from this point forward I will have a scan every 2 weeks.

I am still a nervous wreck. I worry I will go back in two weeks to find no heartbeat or I will MC before then.

If anyone can give me anything good or bad I would be so grateful. I know I can not change the outcome but I just want to know someone has had this before and I’m not being crazy for a) worrying and b) trying to have some hope.

Please xx

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Pupol2018 · 19/05/2018 17:04

Apologies for such a long message !

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Stephisaur · 19/05/2018 17:18

My understanding is that the baby is very difficult to measure so early on. USUALLY they will catch up with your dates by 12 weeks.

Obviously it’s different for everyone, but if your sonographer isn’t panicking then I don’t think you need to :)

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Pupol2018 · 19/05/2018 17:21

Thanks for replying @stephisaur, I hope to god you are right. I just feel like I’ve gone from being 2 weeks out with dates (and I am soooo certain) to now 3! The midwife even asked if we have any small people in the family, not sure what she meant by that but assuming she is saying we could have a very small baby. I don’t care what baby is like as long as he is healthy and we can do our best for him.

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SpaSushi · 19/05/2018 17:31

Dont worry about the dates; they use reference age-measures , so if your baby is bigger/smaller/shorter/longer then it will 'date' differently to the reference.
Remember that the baby is teeny tiny, so any slight over or under ( talking mm here) when they measure makes a difference, and different operators too.

I know it is hard but try not to worry, there is nothing you can do other than wait and look after yourself x

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Pupol2018 · 19/05/2018 18:23

Yes you are right, I don’t help myself or baby by worrying. Wish I could just switch off for two weeks ! Luckily I am busy at work so that may take my mind off of it all xx

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Aw12345 · 19/05/2018 18:31

They changed my dates based in scan... I had only progressed by 4 days in 2 weeks at one point before 12 weeks. Was worried but now am 29 weeks and baby scanning normal size/weight etc for this stage :-) it's so difficult but try not to worry :-)

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Pupol2018 · 19/05/2018 18:36

Thank you everyone I do feel a bit better :-) I guess what will be will be and I just need to concentrate on chilling a bit!

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FoxgloveStar · 20/05/2018 07:35

You need to try and relax. That is literally the best thing you can do right now to reduce the chance of miscarriage. Try to distract yourself and spend some time outside in the lovely sunshine. I understand why you are so anxious but there is nothing you can do. It is going to be a long few weeks but you need to try and get through it without adding to your stress levels. There is nothing you’ve said that makes me think there is anything specific to worry about. Maybe your cycle did some weird that month and that’s why the dates are not as you thought.

Bentlie · 20/05/2018 07:51

I went for an early scan due to bleeding at what I thought was 7 weeks, they told me it was 5. I went back for another scan due to bleeding two weeks later and they told me I was 9+3. I had my 12 week scan 2 weeks and 4 days after this and they told me I was 13 weeks. Now 17 weeks and baby is healthy (to my knowledge).

I can't tell you 100% that you'll be fine, and the problem with early scans is that they only tell you that baby is ok on the day. Anything can happen in 12 weeks, however most women do go on to have healthy pregnancies.

Miscarriage can change you. It doesn't matter how long ago you went through it. It's a horrid time and stays with you forever. It'll make every twinge slightly more worrying, but the relief you get from each positive milestone is immense.

Best of luck, I do hope all is ok, and congratulations

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