Need some comforting advise :)

[Rose2887]

I’m currently 8 weeks pregnant, my dp and I have had some ups and downs but are sorting things. The issue is at the minute I feel really alone as my family do not like my dp, which means they’ve taken a step back and all I see is him, I miss seeing my family.

I’m scared I’m going to end up depressed and I had post natal depression with my dd who’s now 9.

I’m not sure what to do... I feel so vulnerable as it is and now isolated too.

What issues do your family have with your DP? Why don't they like him?

Ahh hun I really feel for you, why don't they get on? Is you dp very supportive? I think now that there is a lot more info and support for mummies than there used to be my oldest is 12 and can't remember any sort of support network when he was a babe. Do you have Facebook? As their are some very good groups like first time mummies and there is also mush to meet other mummies in your area, I know there is nothing like family when you have little ones but if they are going to take a step back then you should too sweet and just take it one day at a time 😁 congratulations and good luck Hun, if you want message me back on here an will add you on Facebook if you need any support xx

Thanks for the replies 😊

@AjasLipstick They don’t like him because of our past arguments and they think he’s quite controlling etc, I think he knows he has insecurities and has agreed to go and talk to someone. We are trying our best to work through these issues and communicate better though! They have said I have changed and I’m not happy, trouble is I want to be settled and happy and try and work at this but if he knew how my family felt would cause extra pressure on the relationship.

I don’t have any social media which I guess doesn’t help!

Thank you @mummmyj that’s a really nice comment 😊 I think hormones don’t help. My dd isn’t his, I still have a good relationship with her dad though which my dp hates which is also another factor.

I just want to be happy and I don’t feel like I can talk to him and now without my family’s support I feel quite lost.

Talk to your family and tell them how you feel. They don't have to like him but they could be civil to him for your sake. Do you go an tell family when you have argued/fallen out? Hormones may have a part to play in it as well. Xx

Don't you go and visit your family without him? Maybe just take DD? My family didn't like my ex and I just went on my own - turned out they were right! We split up in the end. Alarm bells ring when family/friends don't like dp!

Agree with singlenotsingle when family, especially parents don't like them its usually for a very good reason and turns out they were right.

I hope not girls 😔 he’s hard work and can be quite nasty but when we get on it’s amazing.. I know being pregnant has made me more hormonal but I hope things change for us xx

Do you have no social media ( apart from MN ) because he doesn't want you to?

@Toofle he bagged me when I was on it, because of his jealousy so I just slowly deleted them all xx

*nagged sorry :)

He does sound very controlling, it's worrying. Kind men don't do things like that.

Rose, this isn't good. He's cutting you off from your family and friends. Are you still as confident a person as you were when you met? Are you happier or less happy now? Lots of us know what's it's like to live with a man who undermines you in every way. Lots of us found the strength to leave men like this for the sake of our children, if not for ourselves.

I defiently wouldn't of got rid of your social media because off him. Please don't push your family or friends away for him either. They will always be there for you and they really have your best intrests at heart xx