Failed medical abortion attempt!! Advice please

[airam97]

Hey this is my first time using this..
I just need some advice and wanted to know if anyone has and a continuing pregnancy and if the baby was okay? I had an abortion at 7/8 weeks I didn't have any cramps at all and only light bleeding nothing compared to the stories I've read about it so after waiting the 2 weeks i took the pregnancy test given from the hospital it came back positive they got me up for an appointment the same day and done a scan which showed the baby was still there and now I'm 10 weeks pregnant!! I asked the nurse what were the risks she said they're wasn't really any just more of a bigger risk of a miscarriage.. my heads all over the place at the moment as the only reason me and my partner decided to go through with the abortion is because we have a 9 month old son already.. I feel like I've only just confident being a mum now because I was really anxious at the start when he was new born and I'm 20 years old! I was booked in for a surgical procedure a second attempt but backed out last minute so I know I'm going to have this baby I feel so guilty for doing what I did I just want to know if there is any other mums been in this situation before as the people I've tried to speak about it with have never heard of a failed abortion..

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No personal experience, but from what I’ve been told, if the pregnancy has carried on and you haven’t had a miscarriage then it’s a good sign that all is well. I would try not to worry. It sounds like this is meant to be your baby and perhaps things have worked out for the best. I’d try to focus on that and not worry too much about the what ifs.

It's not the same, but I'm now full term with a baby that I took the morning after pill for. Baby will never know that they weren't planned, they don't need to know that. If you're keeping them then you do want them and will love them when they're here. Make sure HV knows you might struggle in advance so they can ensure you're looked after. I had a fantastic one with my first and she was so nice and helpful when I was really struggling to cope.

Anecdotally the only people who went on and on about how difficult the age gap will be are the people with large age gaps. The people that I've spoken to who actually had smaller age gaps have said that it was only hard for a few months and they wouldn't have had it any other way.

Thank you! I have let my HV know and she's said she'll give me all the support I need she was really helpful. I've read a few stories about people having babys really close together and how they think it's amazing because they are bestfriends so I am happy about that.
I'm going to try not worry about all the what ifs and get exited about this new arrival.
Thank you for getting back to me ladies.
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My brother and I are sixteen months apart. It was great growing up as we played together with the same sorts of toys and games when we were little, watched the same tv programmes, enjoyed the same holidays and activities and then as we got older went through GCSEs/A levels/uni at similar times. Even though we’re very different in our personalities we still have a close relationship.

My sister is 18m younger than me (so my mum would have been pregnant at 9m) and she is my closest friend, even now we’re both in our 30s. I adored growing up with someone so close in age, and we still share a lot of friends and have so much fun together. Another sister has twins and had a third surprise maybe 16m later - it was a little nuts at the start with 3 kid under 2, but it’s great watching the three of them grow up together and they’re a fab little unit. They’ll be great.

Hi update please did u have the baby