19 & pregnant with an abortion-set partner. Help!!

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Okay so full background, I'm 19 and my partner is 21 in August and we've just found out that I am pregnant. I'm still in shock but I'm fairly confident that I want to keep the baby, however my partner is convinced that it will ruin our lives and wants me to have an abortion. He's said he'll support me either way but I want to make a decision that he won't resent me for. How can I make him see that keeping this baby is not going to be the end of the world?

Thanks xxx

Why does he think it will ruin your lives? Have you been together long? Do you live together? Can you financially support a child? Are you in stable jobs? These are all questions I would consider carefully.

Ultimately it's your choice and you shouldn't ever be pressurized into a termination by your partner but do have a long term plan worked out and do think about how you will be impacted if your break up.

Good luck.

You can't, although hopefully he will come to see it in time. However ultimately please don't make a decision that you will regret. You have to line with you forever x

The decision to keep the baby is yours and yours alone.
He may be right in that he is not ready to have responsibility for a child and it may be the end of your relationship. He has the right to have his say.
But only you can make the decision.
Will this baby be the end of the world if you aren't together? Do you have enough support that your future won't just stop until your child is grown? Children are a gift: Lord knows I love mine to bits, but they aren't easy.

This sadly happens to many women of different ages. I wish men would learn to take responsibility of their own sexual organs.

Anyway as you know, it is your body and your decision. Don’t let anything he says sway you or you will wind up regretting it forever. If needs be, spend some time apart to make your decision alone. Sometimes it can be helpful to speak with friends/family you trust and perhaps write a list of pros and cons. Also carefully consider finances, how you would potentially handle the baby alone if he leaves etc.

Good luck OP

OP you have things the wrong way round, your decision should not be one that he doesn't resent you for, it has to be one you don't resent him for.
Your body, your choice. You get the casting vote on this!

Definitely your decision. I was in your shoes once. Same age and with a partner who really didn’t want this baby. It was a really shit time and he made it clear that he wouldn’t support me if I decided to have the baby. Luckily, I decided to keep her and it’s the best thing I ever did.

Myself and her dad are still together and currently expecting our second. He apologises daily for being such a twat. We hadn’t been together long and at the time he had an 18 month old DD with his crazy ex and he was terrified at how she’d react to this news (she made our lives hell until at least a year after DD was born)

Fully agree with others who say it is your decison and yours alone to make.

No one can force you into anything! at the end of the day its your body and your decision,i was 19 having my first. i got pregnant in the same week i got with my boyfriend,i always think it was meant to be. i was lucky and he was very supportive.

19 does feel young to have a child and when i was pregnant on my first all i had was people telling me my life was over,i didn't even bother listening to anyone,they might of thought that but as soon as i had my lg my whole life did change but not in a bad way! shes gave my life so much purpose as cringey as it sounds but theres no better feeling then being a mother. i used to be a party girl and out of control before i had her but now i never go out or even think about alcohol (not because having a baby) its because ive changed my life and my ways to better myself for me,my daughter and my partner. i may be boring to my friends but i love being a mother,all the little things youll cherish forever and until you have your baby you wont understand the love for the baby until your holding him/her. everyone wanted me to have an abortion and i didn't! I'm so glad i didn't cause my lg means everything to me,and here i am two years later pregnant on my second child,in my own house more independent and grown up then ive ever been! mother hood is not a walk in the park but its worth every minute of it!

Definitely your body your choice, but he says he's not ready and you can't force him to be, so make sure you're prepared to do this without the relationship