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Would a positive test show up so soon?

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EmpressYzma · 15/05/2018 20:47

Cannot believe I'm having to write this, but here we go..

Me and my on/off partner having fairly regular sex. We recently found out that he isn't able to have children. In fact his live sperm count is 0.

On the 28th/29th april i went away for the weekend, and got very drunk both nights, and had unprotected sex with a different man. (It was the same man both nights). I know, i was very stupid and reckless.

On the monday, the 30th i took the MAP.

My last period started on the 14th April.

I have just done a pregnancy test and it's positive.

Is it possible that the MAP failed, and that I'm pregnant with weekend man? Would is show up so early? Or is it more likely that by some miracle my on/off partner had 1 healthy sperm at the right time?

I just can't think straight.. i can't believe i was stupid enough to let this happen.

TIA

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hammeringinmyhead · 15/05/2018 20:57

If your last period was 14th April you had sex bang on 14 days into your cycle. If you have an average 28 day cycle you are a few days late so yes, it would show up now.

hammeringinmyhead · 15/05/2018 20:59

Just to add, that's why they call it the 2 week wait - 2 weeks after you have your fertile time your period either does or doesn't show. I'm sorry 💐

SoyDora · 15/05/2018 20:59

As above, you had sex at your most fertile point and you are now a day or so late on your period assuming fairly regular cycles so yes, a positive would show up now.

BrutusMcDogface · 15/05/2018 21:02

Yes I'm afraid it does sound like it's weekend man's baby, going by dates......are you with the on/off partner at the moment? What a situation!

MissJSays · 15/05/2018 21:22

Ahhhh rats!

Sounds like it's weekend mans.
What you gonna do?

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EmpressYzma · 15/05/2018 22:53

Thank you everyone.

On/off partner knows that i slept with him, but this is going to break his heart as he's desperate for his own.
I've known weekend man for about 10 years, without making myself too well known, we're in the same family, just not biologically related in anyway, thank goodness!

Thank you everyone

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SecretStash · 16/05/2018 07:20

Oh God, it isn’t your sisters husband or something is it?

Apart from that, how do you feel about it?

RLOU88 · 16/05/2018 07:31

Timing would suggest weekend man

SamanthaH92 · 16/05/2018 07:44

I would say weekend man but only a dna would prove that. The MAP is a tricky one. Doesn't work if you have already ovulated. I fell pregnant after taking the map 12 hours after a condom split. Sadly ended in miscarriage. X

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EmpressYzma · 16/05/2018 08:56

Sorry to hear that Samantha, miscarriage is really awful. I've had one too and as much as this is a massive shock, I'm already on edge about another miscarriage.

No not sisters husband, thank god!

It's my sons uncle.. so my ex's brother. Thankfully they are not biologically related brothers.

Me and ex broke up a long time ago, and we have always got on well since. Have always got on well with the brother, but definitely not in a relationship way!

I'm really really close to their parents, my DSs grandparents, too. God knows how it's going to be taken by them all... I don't think it's going to go well!

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EmpressYzma · 16/05/2018 22:12

Spoken to weekend man.. he's adamant that he wants me to have an abortion. He says it will rip the family apart, and that he won't mentally cope well if i keep it. In fact he web2t on for ages about how much it would mess him up. He doesn't know if he would be involved or not if i kept it.

I have no idea what to do. If i knew the family would be supportive, i would keep it , but i just don't know how they'll react.

I have 2 children already, and have always said i could never have an abortion, but i just don't know what to do now. God i can't believe how stupid I've been.

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SecretStash · 17/05/2018 06:00

Hmm that’s tough.

I assume he didn’t use a condom or even mention contraception?

SamanthaH92 · 17/05/2018 09:23

Don't be pushed in to something you don't want. If you want to keep it, keep it and sod anyone else. He should of thought about the consequences of not using protection (goes both ways). X

blueskyinmarch · 17/05/2018 09:30

What a tricky situation. If your current DP is keen to have children but cannot is there any way he could come round to accepting this child as his? I understand weekend man would have to be complicit in the arrangement but it could work out for all? If he can't then you either have a termination or bring the child up by yourself. You don't need to tell anyone who the father is. No easy solution here.

Maedoula · 17/05/2018 10:34

If you want to keep the baby, then keep it...I'd say don't tell anyone until you're sure it's a viable pregnancy, just incase.

Gemsie1984 · 17/05/2018 11:14

It's your body and ultimately your choice.

I'm in a similar-ish situation, won't go into too many details but everyone (mainly my parents) wants me to terminate this child (I'm 10 weeks). The way I see it is that my child, although conceived in difficult circumstances, is innocent. The more I think about termination the more I know I personally can't do it.. so I know in all reality that I will be raising this child completely alone. That's a tough reality but one I'm willing to swallow. It has to be what YOU decide, no one else.. x

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EmpressYzma · 18/05/2018 20:32

Thank you everyone for your replies.

I think this decision has been made for me as I'm pretty sure I'm having a miscarriage. Had lots of pain last night, and today have had a bit of bleeding, just like a period, with a couple of small clots. No blood for a few hours now but still cramps. (Sorry for the TMI)

The only other miscarriage i have had was a missed miscarriage. Baby had died at 9 weeks but i was 11 weeks before i had a scan and found out. No bleeding or anything until then, so this is a bit of a shock and I'm not sure what to expect now.

Gemsie i'm so sorry to hear about your situation. It's such a hard decision to make. Like you say it is your decision, and you need to decide what is best for you, and nobody else. But i totally get it, it's so so hard

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