Social services and pregnant again

[Fayefaye14]

Hi, I have a 7 month old and have just found out I am pregnant again.
I have had social services involved since I was pregnant with my first on a child protection plan due to domestic violence. Social services advised me to break up with my child’s dad, other wise he would be adopted. I am in court in a week to go from child protection plan to a 6 month supervision order as they have no concerns about my parenting. I am worried because I had a one night stand in April while I was out drinking with friends and I don’t know the man I slept with my question is will social services stay involved longer because I am pregnant again? Could they take both my babies away because I don’t know who the dad is? I am also worried that they might think I am pregnant to my ex ( first babies dad) because they didn’t think I would break up with him in the first place. I’m a good mum and love my babies and I am terrified of losing them! Has anyone been Through this or something similar? Thanks x

I think you need to be honest with your social worker about your pregnancy.

Have you followed all their guidance, including being completely separated from your child's dad? They may want to keep you on a child protection plan until after your next baby has been born, just to make sure that you are continuing to cope.

^ that’s good advice

Hi thanks for your reply, yes i have done absolutely everything they have asked of me I am just worried what they might do about me not knowing who I am now pregnant to.

I would hope that they wouldn't do anything. You are an adult who can make their own decisions about who you sleep with (unless it's the father of your child!)

As I said though, they might want to extend the child protection plan until after your new baby is born.

They will consider if your baby is your ex-partners. They won't keep you on a CP plan because you had a one night stand but they may extend their involvement to check you don't need additional support with new baby.

There was a thread on here a little while back - I'll have a look to see if I can find it. But the poster had SS involvement with her first child (who was adopted I seem to recall) Years later she was in a new settled relationship with none of the issues that she'd experienced with first child. She was pregnant. Although worried she made full disclosure to SS and they were very supportive - could see she had acknowledged the risks she had exposed first child too, that she regretted her previous situations and that her new life was completely different. I agree with others that speaking to your SW re your pregnancy will be better than "hiding it" from them. Best wishes.

Thankyou!

Hi
I have social services involved because of someone I am in a relationship with his past history makes him a risk. My son is on a child protection plan the social worker was hoping that we could move it down to child in need in the next big meeting.
We have done everything they have asked all the courses they wanted but I have found out I'm pregnant and he said things could change and now I'm super worried in what could happen.
They aren't worried about how I look after my son it's just about who I'm going out with. If anyone is in or has been in the same circumstances could you please give me some information or advice. Thank you!

Peppa you'll be better starting your own thread, you'll get more replies

I have no idea how you do that haha been trying to work it out for ages 😂

I work in safeguarding. No one here can predict the decision as it depends on the views of the individual professionals involved. A new baby could result in an extended CP plan as this might be seen as extra pressure on you and they may want extra time to see how you cope. Pregnancy and a new baby is known to increase vulnerabilty so they jay be cautious. They may be concerned the new baby is your ex partner's - sometimes they have to make the best guess based on what historical circumstances tell them. Also, could the new baby aggravate your ex and put you at increased risk? I don't want to mislead you as I only have a small snippet of info but on the face of it based on the information you have given I find it highly unlikely your children will be removed from your care. The threshold is very high. Keep being a good mum and keep yourself and your children safe. Be open and honest with professionals. Best of luck. X

@Peppapig126 I'd give you the ssme advice. X

Hi I’m a mum of 3 boys,

because of my past being involved with my older 2 kids dad and that being a domestic abuse relationship and losing them to a special guardian ship order because I was a young mum only 19 with 2 babies I didn’t necessarily make child centre decisions because of my actions years ago my newest son who is now 6 months has been subject to originally a child in need palm but then I was put on a child protection plan in order to get extra funding to be able to support me around my mental health and housing, I am currently working towards coming of my child protection plan as I’ve done everything they asked even at the beginning of my pregnancy with my now 6 month old I informed social services before I contacted my midwife because I knew that would benefit me and my son in the long run…anyway my issue is there’s a 99% chance I’m pregnant again (I’ll find out tomorrow for definite) but this time it was a one night stand and I’ve never done that before and I’m worried they might take my son off me or encourage me to terminate my pregnancy because I don’t know who the dad is and because my son is already on a child protection plan, I’m honestly so stressed out but I’ve worked so hard to prove I’m not the same young girl I was back them and I have turned my life around I’m just worried they won’t have as much faith in me as they do now.

You are probably better making your own thread but your social worker cannot and will not encourage you to terminate a pregnancy - that is your decision alone. They also don't care if you've had a one night stand and fallen pregnant - the issues are can you keep your baby safe from harm and look after them properly. If the child protection plan is coming to an end soon then it sounds like you are doing everything you can.

Hi , Reading this was like writing this myself. If anyone could give me some advise that would be fantastic. Thank you x

My wee one is 7 month too! He came off the child protection last moth and the plan is to get him home as I've proved to stay away from his dad etc my boy was put into Foster care because his dad attacked me on two occasions. I also feel they will use this pregnancy as a way to keep my son away longer as they'll automatically think he's the baby daddy again. Am I better leaving it until I get my son back or coming clean and asking they're advise. My head is doing so much overtime as I'm so close to getting my wee one back and I don't want this going on any longer than it had already or losing my boy through falling pregnant again and then losing them both. I am ill with this x