Felling like I’m about to have a nervous breakdown

[Sadandpregnantlady2018]

I’m 35weeks with my third baby and I just feel like anything and everything is too much right now I’m so scared I won’t be able to cope when the baby arrives.

I don’t know who to turn to. My midwife seems judgemental (probably just my brain) and I just don’t feel comfortable talking to her. I’m a young mum and feel some people just look at me and judge. I just want to die. I really feel so lost and alone. Dp is around and helping but we have just been arguing so much lately and I don’t really want to speak to family.

Help.....

Didn't want to read and run, I'm sure alot of other mothers go through exactly what your feeling. I've literally just gone on mat leave and reality is slowing kicking in. Please try to speak to your midwife they offer so much support for stress or anxiety. Wishing you all the best, keep talking about your feelings it will give you some relief x

d’ont worry, good luck

Hi sad Congratulations on your pregnancy! I'm sorry you're feeling so bad. I had a rough third trimester - I have problems with anxiety anyway but during the third I remember crying a lot because it was all suddenly real and I was so scared. I felt like midwives weren't listening to me and that nobody was taking me seriously.

What I did was start seeing a peri-natal mental health counsellor who worked for a charity in my area. It wasn't NHS but you would only donate what you could manage per session. At the time it did really help, just talking out that big knot of thoughts in my mind. Do you know if there's anything like that in your area? If not, you could phone your midwifery team and ask about seeing a nurse from the peri-natal MH team. I'm in Glasgow if there's any chance you are.

And just to say, when the baby comes you will do better than cope. We're all learning on the job but you will be exactly the mummy your wee one needs.

I think maybe you need to talk this through with your GP, being overwhelmed to the point of wanting to die is not right and you need some support. I had antenatal depression and felt very like you describe - I'm not saying you have at all, but you do sound as though you need some extra help from somewhere and the GP can point you in the right direction.

Your family could help so please talk to them. You don't have to feel so alone. You will be OK, honestly, you just need to admit that you don't feel quite right. You will manage the baby fine, really you will. Please talk to someone - they will want to help you

Hey love. I’m sorry you are feeling like this. I bet you are stronger than you know. As soon as that baby arrives you will cope because you’re a mum and that’s what moms do. We don’t always feel like we are but we cope everyday, even if it’s just with getting out of bed. I would try and get yourself someone to talk to. I felt like I couldn’t cope when my first was born and having a course of talking therapy was what I needed to know that I could do it. I got the contact details through my local children’s centre. They were really good and didn’t mind me crying at them. I didn’t like my Midwife either so I get it if you don’t want to talk to her. Defo try the children’s centre if you have one close, or ring them if you can get there. Today try and think about all the hard things you coped with so far, know that there is strength in you and that today it’s just hiding. You’ll find it soon. Big hugs. Lots of us have been where you’re feeling today. Xxxxx

In last thing, totally get not wanting to talk to family and partner. At the time I hated my partner as I felt he was making it worse and I was too ashamed to talk to family about not coping. Talking to a professional o was able to say things I probably wouldn’t have to other people and gave me tools to talk to my partner.