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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Older mum

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Donnabillox · 11/05/2018 16:33

Hi there I have 3 adult children with my ex husband and after trying for only 1 month I am now 5 weeks pregnant with my new husbands baby ... we are so happy , my husband has no other children, he is 36 and I am 42 . Just wondered if any other older mums on here to share any thoughts. I’m just a bit nervous after so long x

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TinyTerror1 · 11/05/2018 16:46

Hiya! Congratulations on your pregnancy! I'm 40 and nearly 19 weeks pregnant with my first baby. There are quite a few of us around

I don't have a lot of advice except read up on the latest dos and don'ts on the NHS website. The only other thing is that as you are older there is more likelihood that you will be high risk for Down's so you might want to think about having the Harmony test or NIPT if you can afford it as this is more accurate than the standard NHS combined screening done at 12 weeks. However this is only for your peace of mind and not essential.

Enjoy your pregnancy! x

Billie353 · 11/05/2018 20:38

I'm an oldie. Had my first at 41, nearly 42 after 6 years of trying. Pregnant with number 2, now at 43.
Try and enjoy it and don't stress xx

Aprilmightbemynewname · 11/05/2018 20:40

Oo my (new) dh was 34 and I was 43 when I had ds. Had an uneventful pregnancy tbh.
He is a delightful toddler at nursery now and all his siblings are totally enchanted with him!!

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Donnabillox · 11/05/2018 21:44

Thanks guys I’m trying to be excited but so worried as all I keep seeing are articles on “ increased risk of miscarriage “ etc!!! Worried sick x

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TinyTerror1 · 12/05/2018 07:39

It's natural to worry and we only told close friends and family before the 12 week scan. The risk drops off every week though so the longer you stay pregnant the better your chances are. I wouldn't let myself get really excited until about 10 weeks and even then I was worried about the 12 week scan.

FreshStartToday · 12/05/2018 07:47

I was an older mum (42) and remember reading that although there is a slight increased risk of miscarriage this is because there is a slightly lower risk of the body retaining a foetus with problems so a slightly lower risk of other complications.

It was also very interesting reading about the Victorians who regularly gave birth well into their late 40s - often after 20 plus years of childbearing. The concept of "older mothers" was quite normal then. It's only recently that the window for childbearing has been narrowed.

Best of luck.

SVRT19674 · 12/05/2018 09:23

Hi I'm 43 and 25 weeks pregnant. I'm having a great pregnancy. I'm seen more often by the consultant and that is fine by me and all is well. Enjoy your pregnancy and the best of luck. My objective was getting past 12 weeks, after that I started to feel super excited as I I hadn't dared before.

Pompom42 · 12/05/2018 09:29

Hey I gave birth at 43 years old. I will admit I'm tired but it's been so wonderful and the fact I was able to give my other child sibling before I got too old 😀

Stephiewoo · 12/05/2018 09:40

Hiya, I feel an older mum as my two older children are 19 and 21. I have a DD who is 4 and am 25 weeks pregnant with another little bundle.
I'm tired this time but enjoying it, it's strange having adult children as well as young children but it what makes our family special.
The children have different fathers and I wouldn't want it any other way.
Good luck in your pregnancy and enjoy it 😊

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Donnabillox · 12/05/2018 10:40

Thanks everyone roll on 12 week scan x

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ChocEggNoThanks · 12/05/2018 21:18

This is a lovely thread We're thinking about having another one and I am in early forties so great to see some positive stories. Wishing you well, OP

StepAwayFromGoogle · 12/05/2018 21:47

OP, I'm holding my 2 week old DD as I type. I'm 41.

hampsteadholly · 12/05/2018 23:11

There are plenty of mums well into there 40s at the baby group I go to with my daughter. It's pretty much the norm in the part of London where I live.

hampsteadholly · 12/05/2018 23:12

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ittooshallpass · 12/05/2018 23:16

Had my DD at 42. Had 'geriatric mother' stamped on my notes! All was fine. I love being an older mom.

btsmarthub · 12/05/2018 23:19

I’m 46 and just had a BFP.

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Donnabillox · 13/05/2018 06:36

Thankyou , I will keep you al updated x

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Donnabillox · 13/05/2018 06:37

That’s fantastic and was it an easy pregnancy? No scares? X

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FutureMum · 13/05/2018 06:39

There is a thread for mums aged forty plus, please join us! I am expecting DC2 at nearly 41 after an eight year gap x

JoJoyorker · 13/05/2018 08:25

Future mum is that the pregnancy thread or is there a mums over 40 thread? Are you able to link please? I had my first at 39 and am expecting our second at 41.
Good luck!

StepAwayFromGoogle · 13/05/2018 09:20

Yes, easy pregnancy, apart from the hyperemesis! And the natural anxieties that come with being pregnant in your 40s x

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Donnabillox · 13/05/2018 10:30

Love the name “ step away from google” I’m going to do just that as that’s what yas been making me anxious and scared... all the scare mongering on google about older mums being at so much risk etc x thankyou for replying it’s made me feel a lot more optimistic x

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Donnabillox · 13/05/2018 10:31

Yes please can you send me the link for the fourty plus group x

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Donnabillox · 13/05/2018 10:32

Thanks jojoy I’m feeling a lot better reading all these positive posts x

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jimijack · 13/05/2018 10:38

Me too, 10 year gap, had my boy when I was 43, dh was 40, was a lovely experience and now he is 5, he is an absolute joy to us at 48 &45, loving every minute.
We feel we have been given a second bash at this wonderful blessing.

Best of luck everyone xx

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