Struggling with weight gain at 17 weeks

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I’ve just tried on some bikinis in the next size up ahead of holidays and want to 😫🔫

Ive always been relatively trim (5’5” and 118lbs) and have gained around 10lbs so far. The weight seems to be all over - I know everyone can’t wait for bellies to “pop” but I’m embarrassed at how fat mine looks and it already looks like I’m 6-7 months pregnant at times.

Honestly can’t deal with it :( even keep telling my husband to turn away and not look at me. I’ve got 3 pre-baby vacations next month and can’t fathom getting my body out. I don’t think i look pregnant, just overweight :(

Just wondering if anyone else has gained this much in just 16/17 weeks from a weight that was more on the lower side of normal?? If so how are you coping?! Do you care about it?

I’m a total exercise freak and have continued to go to HIIT classes (a few weeks ago I did 12 days in a row!) and Yoga, since the first tri passed I’ve been back doing hot yoga too. I don’t think there’s been a single day I’ve not exercised! I’ve always been like that. Probably eating 2,000-2,300 calories a day like I used to but I guess the exercise isn’t doing its job anymore ☹️

Please don’t get me wrong, I really want this baby it’s just so hard coping with the fatness.

At 118 pounds and 5'5", you must have been a bit underweight for your height before pregnancy? I am 5'5" and a "good" weight for me has always been 132 pounds. I was over that at 142 pounds pre-pregnancy. I'm 15 weeks now and haven't put on any weight, because I was so sick until 11 weeks so have only been back to eating normally for a short while.

I'm in my 40s now and had my last baby in my 20s. I put on very little weight in that pregnancy due to various pregnancy-related health issues, but put on a lot AFTER the pregnancy, while breastfeeding. I wasn't expecting the hunger. And also I expected to lose weight breastfeeding, but didn't. It all came off very quickly when I stopped breastfeeding and I ended up thinner than I had been before getting pregnant. Pregnancy and childbirth are full of surprises. Your body will have muscle memory from your years of fitness and you will be able to get back into shape after the baby arrives. Don't worry about it. You are not going to end up the size of a house and you will go back to "normal". And you'll have a lovely baby too.

I totally agree with you. To many women are quick to comment on this post in a negative manor. Having a previous eating disorder myself I know exactly how you feel. And I also got stick for posting my feelings about weight gain on another site - But your totally right it’s a feeling. Your so happy your pregnant and would gain 30 stone if you had to. But it’s still hard to live with weight gain when you have had issues around it in the past. To much negativity from others. I’ve found that thinking off the positive helps and knowing my body is changing for my baby helps all the bad thoughts go away. And soon we’ll pop and have our nice little bumps to show :)

I put a post a while ago because again, this is my second pregnancy, I've already gained a stone by 18 weeks and I'm still running and exercising regularly, my body just seems to instantly put fat on when pregnant, mainly on my stomach. I think it's a genetic thing because this time round I've been really careful and it's still happened. I also think the lower your bmi at the start the more you need to put on because your body puts fat reserves on for afterwards when you may be breast feeding. I actually think you've probably put about the right amount on, don't forget a lot of the fat feeling will be water retention, bloating and your also carrying a placenta now, bigger boobs, a bigger uterous and a sack of water in there and loads more pints of blood so it won't all be "weight gain". Chin up, pregnancy is tough, we get massive but everyone expects us too, I'm sure your partner doesn't see you as anything but the Wonder Woman who is making his child for him take care xx