Bit of background about us.
We have been together for 16 years. We have 4 children together aged 15, 13, 7 & 4 (well nearly he's a May baby). We have our own business so are financially OK, rent our 3 bedroomed house but have done a loft conversion to make it into a 4 bed. We converted the loft after having baby 4 as my brother was living with us (he lived with us for 7 years in total)
Me and our girls (13 & 8) were at the Ariana concert and saw a lot and it took me until last month for the 13 yo to get some counselling & we had to pay privately for the 7 yo as CAHM's won't accept her until she's 8 which is this August. (there is a reason I've mentioned this)
We found out about 6 weeks ago that I was pregnant with baby no. 5 and to say it was unexpected was an understatement. I was VERY unsure about having a 5th but after ringing up to book a termination I just couldn't do it so I bit the bullet and told my mum that I was pregnant with what will be baby no. 5. I thought that I'd tell her first as we have been really close over the last couple of years.
She was NOT impressed. I'm stupid, should be ashamed of myself & emotionally unbalanced (Manchester related) and it's too soon after Manchester for me to be making any life changing decisions.
This was 2 weeks ago. We haven't spoke since so I messaged her last week to just say 'Hi' and she wrote back saying 'I haven't been in touch because I'm totally devastated by your "news" ' so I just said fine and haven't bothered since and then last night she messaged saying 'Does Kevin or anyone else know ?' to which I replied saying Kev (my brother) does but haven't told anyone else until we have the scan and I have had no reply.
I know that everyone will have their own opinions & I know that what other people think doesn't matter but it has both upset me & annoyed me at her reaction.
We don't EVER ask to borrow money, we don't hassle people to babysit & have 1 weekend a year at the most without the kids & our kids are good kids - rarely in trouble (other than normal teenage stuff). We are not reliant on anyone or support from anyone.
My mum only has 1 child at a time & we are lucky if they sleep twice a year (I mean 2 sleeps between the 4 not 2 sleeps each so 8 sleeps a year). She doesn't have them for tea, she doesn't bother, really, being involved saying that we have too many kids to share her time with (she is 53 & works 20 hours a week & lives by herself!). She wasn't a great mum as she suffers with her mental health so she just used to stay in bed or was abusive hence why I was sooooooo annoyed when she said that I was emotionally unbalanced because of Manchester! (What she means is that I still feel guilty about putting the girls in that situation & having the odd cry when certain songs come on NOT that I'm suffering from depression, nor am I hiding myself away, nor am I having panic attacks or anything that would be an 'extreme' reaction but rather quite normal, mild issues TBH)
Not sure why I'm posting TBF - just hoping that the rest of my family kind of say their piece and get over it as I think I'm pretty positive that we made the right decision not to terminate.