Now a week overdue and really fed up :-(

[Ilovemuesli]

Hi,
Warning: whingy post alert.
Need a place to vent/feel sorry for myself :-( !!
I'm a first time mum, baby was due on 2nd May, yet still sitting here a week later with no baby. I know first babies usually come late and I was not expecting anything to happen on the due date, but I was really hoping that by now I'd have my baby.... especially when I hear about people who were due after me who have already delivered their babies.

I've had a pretty easy time up until now, what makes it worse is that my midwife, whom I saw at my due date appointment, did a sweep and said I was very close to delivering, and almost didn't bother to book my 41 week appointment as I "wouldn't need it" - she said she could have broken my waters if necessary, I was effaced and 2cm dilated. The day after that appointment I had a show, I've had backache and all the signs that point to beginning of labour but then everything just stopped at the weekend and nothing has happened since.

I just feel like a complete failure, since all our family/friends are constantly messaging asking for news and I have to keep saying no baby yet, no baby yet, no she's not here yet.

Are there any other ladies out there in the same boat? Induction has been booked for Saturday and I'm really hoping a miracle happens before then and I can go into labour naturally :( :(

Sorry for the self-centered rant... I've also got terrible hayfever with the warm weather recently and it's making me super-depressed and self-pitying (!)

If anyone has any survival stories for how to get through this period I would love to hear them!

I'm still not due for another 12 days.. But my friend who was due the same time as me had her baby already and I'm so jealous 😭

Hope your baby arrives soon! I'm also dreading going overdue.. Especially since its getting hotter!

I'm due tomorrow and no signs whatsoever so not in your position so I do sympathise. I'm extra impatient because I had DD at 34 and a half weeks so I wasn't expecting to be so late! If it's any consolation though, I was induced and it was fine so I'm ok with the idea of having another induction.

My friend was due on the same day as me. She had her baby before me and, to add insult to injury, on my birthday. I was like I'M NEVER SPEAKING TO HER AGAIN. My rage subsided once I'd had my baby 😂

Going overdue is miserable but it sounds like you're so close. If you have to be induced I'm sure it'll go smoothly as your body is pretty much ready to have this baby.

I was due my second baby on the fifth. Am sitting around twiddling my thumbs waiting for him. The first couple of days were great but I'm pretty bored now. Plus huge and uncomfortable of course. I feel for you OP!

Both mine were over 14 days late by the scan date (which I knew was not correct).

Try sitting on the loo (with a good book?!) with your knees wide and your bum down low.

Hope baby arrives soon!

Thanks everyone, am in slightly better spirits this afternoon, since my hayfever seems to be dying down... Thinking about going for a walk to the supermarket (about a mile away) and buying everything in the chocolate aisle !!
Have been on all fours scrubbing kitchen floor this morning in an attempt to move stuff along.... getting a few more twingy pre-period type cramps, not sure if this is a sign?

Does this mean the baby is going to be an awkward little g*t? Because that's how it feels (!)

I was a week over due with my second child so I know how you feel. At one point I seriously thought the baby would never be born and I'd be pregnant forever :( it was horrible.

Plus everyone calling and texting constantly asking if I'd given birth? What a stupid question, if I'd had the baby we would have told you! 🙄

No advice sadly. I tried everything to bring on the birth, all the old wives tales. But babies come when they want to and not before. Just think of it this way, the hospital won't let you go more than 2 weeks over so you should definitely have your baby by this time next week. And he/she will be worth the wait :)

It's awful OP. You need to be able to whinge, this is a good place for it.

I went 11 days over with DC1. I HATED the constant messages/calls about whether I was in labour. I emailed close family and asked them not to keep asking. I thought this was sensible, and that they were sensible people. Alas, they were not heated words were exchanged.

I found reading helped take my mind off things.

You're really not a failure. In fact, it sounds like you're doing great! I had similar to what you reported and went on to have a very good birth because my body was ready.

Your baby will come, I promise

Hi i'm 7 days late n scared to take a test i know it will be positive any advice plz.

I’m waiting for my baby too! I’m now overdue and just had my second sweep which isn’t look favourable. I really hope it happens soon for everyone waiting. I had a little hormonal cry this morning as this is baby number 4 and I just wasn’t expecting to be late, particularly when the last one was early! Maybe it’ll be a laid back baby

Don’t even get me started on the “any news yet” text messages. I’m ignoring them now. They started before I was even due!

Hope everyone’s babies arrive soon!!

Hi OP. I had my baby at 40+14 so I feel your pain. The thing that kept me going was turning my phone on airplane mode to stop the annoying texts, I got in to a box set and sat on my exercise ball. And I told myself that you never hear of babies staying in there forever :))

It'll happen! Promise !!

Oh, and I went in to labour on the day they wanted to induce me. (I had refused it, but that's another story)

UPDATE
Thanks to everyone who replied to this thread when I was feeling down in the dumps, it cheered me up :)
So at my 41 week appointment yesterday, my midwife referred me to hospital as a result of my high blood pressure, where they decided to kickstart an induction this morning. Have had a pessary (sp?) and getting strong period pains coming and going..... due for another pessary at midnight tonight if they cannot break my waters....

Wish me luck!

Ooh exciting! Good luck!

Keep us updated if you feel like it. I love a live labour thread!

@Ilovemuesli Good luck with everything today! Keep us posted

Good luck, hope you have a baby in your arms very soon! I'm four days over my due date, having a sweep later so fingers crossed it works!

Good luck OP

Ah fab news, I’m 6 days overdue and THINK I’m in early labour, feeling pretty damn clueless as although it’s my second baby my first was induced and born at 42 weeks. I have induction booked for the 18th (13 days over) but I hopefully won’t need it now.

Good luck

2nd UPDATE

Hi all :-)
Apologies for not updating sooner, but I have not had much chance (!)
The pessary worked wonderfully in that I had it put in at midnight on Thursday night and got the strong period cramps all day. By 4pm on Friday I was sitting on the hospital bed watching TV happily. By 4:30pm on Friday I was having very powerful painful contractions every 3 minutes! I was 2cm dilated at 4:30pm. By 6:30pm I was 8cm dilated!
Unfortunately the baby's heart rate did not like the speed of the labour/dilation and so I was sent for an emergency c-section last night. My little girl was finally born at 7:11pm on Friday May 11th (!)

So happy., so tired but we are all home now and taking it easy!

Thanks everyone for your replies - a whinging thread that has taken a turn into a positive thread can't be bad (!)

For those of you who are still waiting for your baby to arrive, I sincerely hope it happens as soon as safely possible (!) Best of luck to all !

:) :)

Brilliant news congratulations to you all