size of baby and size of pregnancy sac not consistent, miscarriage inevitable?

[gemwhitt]

Hi ladies,

Hoping for some reassurance, or just some stories of experiences with this.

Went for scan today at 7w+1d. I've not had much in the way of pregnancy symptoms the past week, and I had a bit of very light spotting at the weekend.

The nurse was far from optimistic at my scan and said my baby is dating at 6w+2, and the size of the sac looks tight around the baby, meaning it's not progressing as it should.

Has anyone else has this? If so, what was your outcome, good or bad? I'm just reading forum after forum trying to estimate my chances. This baby is very much wanted, and we are just devastated that all is not well.

Also Keefburtain I just re read what you said about a sense of relief?? I feel exactly that. It’s hard to not feel guilty that you’re relieved but I guess it’s more a feeling of relief that the experience and waiting is over rather than the actual pregnancy. We both seem to have known our pregnancies were over or not viable so the relief is more that we no longer have to wait and can begin to move forward.

How are you coping now your a month or so on? X

I’ve thought of you a lot. I’m so sorry, I was really wishing for a happier outcome for you.

I’m doing ok. I’ve had my first period which was quite emotional - it’s like it was actual confirmation that mc had happened, but at the same time I now know that everything’s going back to normal so we can plan what we’re doing next.

I had a bit of a wobble the other day - I would have been 17 weeks now and that’s the gestation when I felt my ds move for the first time so I got a bit upset, but it is getting easier. I can talk about it in real life now whereas I couldn’t get the words out before.

I think that it’s sensible to have the time off of work and I’m really pleased you have a supportive husband. My dp is not very good with words but I’ve had a lot of boxes of maltesers lately so I know he’s trying!

It’s such a taboo subject isn’t it! For something that’s so common, I’ve had friends only open up to me about their losses now that I’ve told them its happened to me.

I wish you all the luck in the world that your next pregnancy is as uneventful and healthy as can be, and I’ll be watching out for you on the boards when you get your bfp.

Thank you @keefburtain :-) you seem a lovely person :-)

Yes my dh isn’t the best vocally but we have had a good cry together and a few chats :-) I think we are allowed a wobble every now and then :-)

I’m not going to track ovulation and all that stuff this time round. I just stressed myself and we did everything right with this pregnancy and had a bad outcome so I’m just going to go with the flow :-)

I hope we both have beautiful healthy babies soon :-) come update me on here when you get your BFP, you definitely deserve it 😊