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Thetimehascometo · 08/05/2018 18:13

Likely answer is yes... but probably just need talking down.

DH and I are both teachers, I’ve had a pretty rough pregnancy and am consultant lead. The consultant who I was initially under has left and since then I have been seen by various registrars etc. Each time I’ve seen someone they have had a different opinion about what to do with me. One wanted to induce me at 38 weeks, the one I saw a few weeks ago told me ‘I’m not sure how we are going to get baby out’ and then today’s has simply gone, ‘oh we’ve still got time we can look at that in a few weeks’. I’ve been seeing another department for a non pregnancy related issue that may affect labour but they have said they will not do anything until after the baby is born, the person I saw 2 weeks ago said that it wasn’t acceptable whereas the one today didn’t seem remotely bothered and isn’t chasing them 🙄.

This has all left me feeling extremely frustrated and anxious. DH has been unable to come to my appointments due to work however the next appointment is in half term. I explained it all to him this evening and asked him to come with me to the next appointment and he was rather blasé and told me he already had plans for that day. I haven’t said anything to him yet as I don’t want to totally blow up for no reason, but I would’ve hoped whatever he had planned wouldn’t be too important to postpone for the sake of supporting myself and his unborn child? I know I’ve been a little hormonal recently so just wanted a bit of advice. Am I right to be a bit disappointed that he doesn’t want to come?

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BiscayTrafalgarFitzroy · 08/05/2018 18:31

Your DH is legally entitled to leave from work to attend up to two antenatal appointment including scans. Why hasn't he claimed this time?

Sorry you're having a stressful pregnancy Flowers

BiscayTrafalgarFitzroy · 08/05/2018 18:31

Your DH is legally entitled to leave from work to attend up to two antenatal appointment including scans. Why hasn't he claimed this time?

Sorry you're having a stressful pregnancy Flowers

BiscayTrafalgarFitzroy · 08/05/2018 18:32

Btw YANBU

Bluebirdsky · 08/05/2018 19:13

I don't think you are being unreasonable however I would try and sit down with him first of all and clearly explain that this is really important to you and you would really like him to be there to support you. Just in case he hasn't understood how much it means to you.
If he still isn't prepared to come with you then I would be getting annoyed unless he has a very good reason!

TinyTerror1 · 09/05/2018 09:56

I sympathise with the lack of consistency in your care. I've yet to see the same person twice, or even any consultant or registrar although I'm apparently under consultant led care (I'm 18 weeks).

Regarding your oh, yanbu but is it not strange that he hasn't said what it is he is doing? (I may have got that wrong but it's how it sounds from your post). I agree with pp sit down and talk rationally (as much as hormones will allow!) about how stressed you are about the uncertainty and how much you would value support at the appointment. Is there someone else you could ask to come instead - mum, sister, close friend?

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