In desperate need of advice.

[Cam1153]

Hi everyone, I will try and keep this as brief as possible. I am 7months pregnant with my first baby and the father, my ex is being a total nightmare. Very contgood olling, childish, selfish and demanding.

He has threatened me and is acting so irrationally that I am worried he is a flight risk once the baby is here.

I have read that by putting him on the birth certificate, he automatically gets parental responsibility, which means that if he disappears with my son, there’s little that I can do.

I am trying to pre-empt this. I’d never keep him of the birth certificate but I would like to get residency in writing along with visitation rights.

I am going to see a solicitor to get advice, but wondered if any of you guys had any experience of a situation like this.

I do not want to keep him from his son, but I also need to have strict boundaries in place to stop him harassing me every day and make me worried about him absconding.

Hi OP. Sorry to hear this. It sounds awful.

I would report this post and ask to get it moved to relationships or legal issues because I think they will get you more responses than here.

Is the father a foreign national? That's why you're worried about flight risk?

I think, from reading other posts, you need to get and keep safe the child's passport. But I hope more expert advice will be along shortly.

You need to speak to your midwife about this. There are a lot of safeguarding specialist midwives and we are all trained to deal with situations such as this, and to get the right help for you.