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Archie1982 · 07/05/2018 03:34

A mini moan (as I have insomnia right now).

I am 14 weeks pregnant having had the scan last week. Me and my husband have started telling family and close friends about it. However, I have been a bit reluctant to tell one friend who is a complete gossip. Before the scan he would always ask why I was not drinking alcohol...and then on Friday, we went out for dinner and it was like the Spanish Inquisition!! Even though we have had the scan and everything is ok, I feel quite cross how insistent he was that I tell him I am pregnant. It’s my choice to say when I want to say it!!

He seemed to think it was ok to keep pushing the subject even when I said that i just didn’t fancy wine. It’s left me wanting to hold off tellling him (he will be annoyed if he works out I’ve told others first and he seems to take pride in being the first to know things).

Am I bad to withhold this now? I want to tell people myself and the way he was on Friday has left me feeling like I need to tell him last in order to have the opportunity to tell people myself....and means he will be one of the last of my friends to know.

Pretty much everyone else I know who worked it out from me not drinking has been amazing, by not saying anything and then being super lovely when I’ve told them (even organising non drinking socialising events to make it so it wasn’t an issue).

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Evangeline3 · 07/05/2018 04:04

I don't think you bad for withholding it, OP.

I can't be doing with the interference so at 26 weeks I've only told about 5 people. People get way too involved.

Oysterbabe · 07/05/2018 08:37

It sounds a bit petty, what's the point? Tell him then also tell him how rude it is to push a woman on that subject and there are lots of good reasons for wanting to keep it private. He's probably never really thought about it.

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