6 weeks today....is it possible to enjoy the first trimester...

[Firsttimemama84]

Hi all

I am 6 weeks today....apparently all being well babies heart starts beating this week 😍

I really want to enjoy this time but I am worrying and googling constantly....is it possible to enjoy the first trimester?

Also I am having a manicure tomorrow and they said they could do a hand and arm massage and I just read somewhere that was bad....so much to worry about!!

Anyone else feeling the same or worked out anyway to relax?

I used to give hand and arm massages in the hairdressing salon. The only thing I can think that would be dangerous about it would be the lotion used, which you can politely refuse anyway.

I'm finding that pregnancy is a lot easier to enjoy if you just...ignore all the bad stories as much as possible. Yes, there is a risk of miscarriage, but I think we assume it's higher than it is because people post their concerns on forums like these.

Nobody ever posts "6 weeks, everything is a piece of piss" do they? ;)

Try to enjoy your pregnancy

x

@stephisaur it was something about pressure points in the wrist and thumb and finger.....I think I need to stop googling! I am also wondering if it might be worth telling someone whos not hubby....hes happy but not such a worrier and I dont think he will really get in until he sees the scan!!

I am going to minimise the googling I think lol!

Thanks so much for your response made me laugh

@stephisaur how far gone are you?

I am around 6 weeks with baby number 3. I’m finding it a lot easier not to worry this time because I haven’t really got time to think about it . I’ve got 2 pre schoolers already so unless something specifically reminds me I don’t really think about it!

I wouldn't assume that they know enough technique to be focusing on any pressure points, but if you're at all worried just ask that they not do it :)

I'm glad it made you laugh, that was what I was going for! :)

I'm 7 weeks. Had my booking appointment yesterday and all went well. Like you, I don't think it'll feel 'real' until I have the scan, but until then I have nothing that's making me worry. Still nice and nauseous, lucky me ;)

I've told 2 close friends, one of whom is TTC and one who has children already so if I need to, I have them as support :)

It’s highly unlikely an arm massage will cause any issues.
Aromatherapy oils should be avoided during pregnancy.
And sorry op, no, I don’t think you can enjoy any of the pregnancy I’m 36+2 and still as anxious as the day I found out, if anything probably more so.

@SoyDora yes I found with my sister on her second there were times when she seemed to forget even in the 3rd trimester whereas she was obsessive about things with her 1st. Think Ive just got nervous excitement.

@stephisaur I had my booking in appointment this week found it a bit anticlimatic lol theyve booked me in for 10 weeks to go through everything properly!! A bit of nausea for me but main symptoms are exhaustion (went to bed at 6pm yesterday ) and bloating and wind....nice!!!

@colonelpopcorn I think I might just ask them to avoid loads of pressure on the wrist lol! Thanks for the dose of realism....you are probably right!! Is your husband engaged now though....mine doesnt seem to really believe it lol....hes happy but not as obsessive as me!!!

Well I think the second trimester is the most enjoyable because it's exciting feeling for the babies movements and you don't have to worry too much about the movement patterns. I'm at 37+5 weeks now and I'm very anxious about her being okay all the time! She has never found a rhythm but is rather active so that's good!

I google aomey stuff but stop once I get a reassuring answer and try to skim past the negative scary stuff haha!

Congratulations by the way! Time is gonna fly

Sorry that was meant to say "I googled some stuff"

I'm six weeks today too. At the moment I just feel shattered! I know what you mean, it is a weird time where you don't want to tell anyone or get too excited just in case.

@Firsttimemama84 you mentioned your husband not getting it until the scan - I think pregnancy, especially the early stages, just isn't as real for them. We are going through the hormonal changes, feeling things happening to our bodies etc. It's hard to forget about it, it's with you all day.

The partners on the other hand, go off to work and probably don't give your pregnancy more than a fleeting thought from one end of the day to the next, other than us talking about it - we don't look any different yet, and can still do most of the stuff we did before, it's just not real for them yet.

I'm pregnant with our third and I commented to dh the other night about it being real for him at the scan, he laughed and said it got real for him when he was sat at home with a baby

Haha @mumofmunchkin I think my DH will be the same he is very out or sight out of mind!

@problembottom nice to hear from someone in the same situation we are going to have to tell some friends at about 10 weeks as they will notice that I am not windsurfing and drinking when we go on holiday....so will probably tell my mum and sister before that but not planning on telling anyone else until first scan and considering holding the big announcement until the second!

I was 6 weeks yesterday, so very similar to you. I’m an absolute nervous wreck DH has tried to ban me from google, and every morning the first thing I do is grab my boobs to make sure they’re still tender! Just desperate to have a scan and see a little heartbeat!

Glad Im not the only one....DH even suggested joining mums net was a bad idea at least 6 weeks until my scan.....no letter yet so just got to try and relax I guess, keep everything crossed and wait!!!! Not going to be easy though!

I wish I could go back to being 6 weeks, now I'm 33 weeks. Wake up 6 times a night to pee, can't get off the sofa alone, laugh and Pee myself, cry and pee myself, cough and pee myself..... wake up to one boob leaking, and being battered from the inside by my unborn child who seems to have the longest fingernails!!!!! 😂

And the point of this was saying I was very paranoid at 6 weeks too, it goes without saying! Everything's so new and you don't know what to expect! I think I'm still
Paranoid now in some ways, they change the further along you get, my fear in the beginning was him being safe and healthy, now it's getting him out safe and still having an intact vagina!

Haven’t stopped worrying since the day I got my BFP so no, I’m sorry, I don’t think it’s possible to “just” enjoy your pregnancy but I certainly think you can begin to enjoy it as you progress. I absolutely love being pregnant (23 weeks now) and feeling the baby kick and wriggle and I love my bump and all the lovely smiles I get from people etc. But honestly I’m shitting myself 95% of the time. I can only assume this is normal and that the rest of my days will be spent worrying about this child in one way or another!!!
Enjoy the bits between the worries, that seems to be working for me! ☺️