Multiple Miscarriages - can anyone give me hope?

[tequilamockingbird123]

Hi ladies,

Had my 3rd natural miscarriage in February - previous 2 were missed miscarriage for which I went down the medical route rather than the D&C.

I’ve made it to 9 weeks with all of them, seen a heartbeat on one, but I just can’t seem to hold on to them. We’re going to have one more attempt before we seek medical help (we currently live in the YS so no help in the form of the much missed NHS for us!).

Has anyone been through similar and gone on to have a successful pregnancy naturally? Bit of background, I’m 34 and have no other children.

Just wondering if it’s futile to keep trying without help right now.

Get medical help. Save yourself potential heart break and pain, it may be as simple as you need progesterone pessaries to help maintain a thick womb lining. Or if it's something more complex at least you can get the ball rolling asap to getting it fixed. Or it may be just bad luck, but at least with medical help you can rule out any underlying causes before you experience the anguish that comes with a mc.
I really hope everything works out for you xx

I had ds2 following 3 miscarriages, so yes there is hope, though having had one child already it was easier for me to have that hope at the time. Sorry your experiencing this. I read some research recently about taking aspirin to prevent miscarriages, might be worth looking that up. But agree with pp, why not get medical help now, in case there's an obvious solution.

I'd definitely try and get help. I've just had a baby after 6 mc and was on aspirin this time. I would try and get tested for sticky blood in the first instance. It is hard as you have to stop ttc for a few months and I know that goes against your instincts, but it will be worth it to find out if there's something which can be fixed.

I'm really sorry for your losses. I also had 1 loss before dd1 and 2 losses before dd2. I did go to privately to a OBGYN and he ran tests, all of which were normal. He suggested I start baby aspirin and progesterone suppositories from 6 weeks, which I did. I managed to hold on to my 2 pregnancies after this so something worked! I would definitely get a referral and get tested.

Ladies, thanks for your replies.

The issue with getting help really stands with the fact that we’re living in the US and fertility testing etc will set us back a lot. Honestly, we don’t really have it right now but will find it if we need to. I’ve never felt nostalgic about the NHS before!

MSJUNIPER was taking aspirin the only thing you did differently that time around?

Me! My sister is 16 years older than me. My late mother told me she had 5 miscarriages before I stuck. These would have been through the 60s and early 70s. I was born in 74.

I don’t know if she did anything different or if age was a factor. She was 44 when I was born.

I have a friend who had 4 miscarriages then was away somewhere in the sun for 8 weeks after she concieved and then managed to give birth to her daughter. After the birth she discovered she had a vitamin D deficiency.

Another friend of mine had issues with thyroid hormone levels leading to multiple miscarriages. (I think 7) Her level was in the normal range but not low enough to substain pregnancy.

They both started TTC after 35 and now have two children each.

I did some digging and other women have reported after sorting these things out they didn't have miscarriages but there isn't any researched evidence for them.

I suggest you get tests for nutrition deficiencies and thyroid hormone levels plus the other things that have been mentioned to rule these things out. A fertility expert would do these tests as a matter of course.

Then when you are pregnant again take baby aspirin. (75mg per day) Anyone in the UK who is considered to have high risk of miscarriage is put on it from the beginning of their pregnancy to 36 weeks.

So after four miscarriages this is what I tried: Thrombophilia blood screening, baby aspirin, progesterone pessaries and vitamin d support. Good luck, it’s so hard!