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[Kitcat159]

I'm 28 weeks now and I'm struggling emotionally.
One min I'm happy I'm pregnant. The next I'm so scared I'm regretting it.
I have tried talking to family but it's hard when they are so close.
I feel like I need to speak to someone professional to get everything out and discuss how to deal with it.
Thing is I have no idea how I would go about doing so.
Does anyone know how I can arrange to speak to someone?
I tried talking to my midwife but was dismissed.
Feel very isolated at the moment.

If your midwife dismissed you - which is completely inappropriate of her - then you should book an appointment with the GP. Your mental health is very important.

When I tried explaining that I'm am so scared that I am regretting being pregnant and every time he kicks I feel panicked and sick with fear.
She just said "well it's only gonna get worse!! It's not gonna be easy!" And that was that, see you in 3 weeks, bye!

I messaged her last week to ask if Braxton hicks is normal at 27 weeks (I figured it was fine just wanted a bit of reassurance that it wasn't something going wrong). She told me to call emergency triage and not to ask her things like that. (I tried but couldn't get through to triage)
At my appt yesterday she said I need to call triage for any complications. She can answer questions but if she isn't working for 3 days I would be left so it's best to not go through her.

Feel a bit like I'm being passed from one person to another at the min. Just want some one to tell me it's ok and I'm doing ok. 😦

Well it is ok and perfectly normal to have phases of being terrified of having a baby, the changes it will make (and is already making) to your life and the responsibility of looking after a tiny person. In that respect you are doing ok and shouldn't beat yourself up over those moments of regret.

However, if these feelings are overwhelming you then it's also fine to need help and to talk to a professional. Your midwife doesn't sound great unfortunately. I really do recommend making an appointment with your GP to talk this over. In the meantime, try to concentrate on the positive feelings, and when the negative feelings start then distract yourself with something. I find washing up or cooking with the radio on is a good sort of combination to keep all bits of my brain busy. Look after yourself x

Thank you @tinyterror1 I will speak to my gp and see if I can speak to someone about it.
😊

I'm 26 weeks, feel exactly the same. I hate pregnancy with a passion and am scared about not coping when the baby arrives. The kicking makes me feel sick (literally) and I cry about nothing/anything.

Planned baby, supportive DH but not coping very well here.

You're not alone :-)

@Aw12345 I'm sorry you feel like that too! I'm relieved I'm not alone tho. I'm dreading birth and people saying things like "You think blood tests are bad? You just wait!" (Phobia of needles) just makes me dread it even more.
I keep thinking "what have I done?!"
Was all planned, supportive husband and family etc. I'm just not coping well with being a "host" body. If that makes sense.

The comments from people saying things will only get worse are SO depressing. If I'm saying I'm struggling with something then why tell me that I'm going to struggle even more??!?! Just to depress me?!?! I know people mean well etc but I don't want to be further depressed!

I have just got back from hospital for the 4th time in 4 days with pregnancy related conditions. I was really lucky to be very healthy and well balanced before this... NOT ANY MORE!!!

are you due mid July? Is it your first baby?

Yes 1st baby and due 24th july.
Feel like I have no idea what's going on with my body and have nowhere to turn for support.
It's scary.
"Well you chose to do it!" Doesn't help either.
People are also very opinionated.
Don't like it and not happy :(

Yes we may have chose to get pregnant but no one tells you the truth about pregnancy beforehand! Everyone seems to 'forget' as soon as the baby arrives... which is great, but means there are not enough warnings for women about how awful pregnancy is before they get pregnant!

I've been amazed how pregnancy can make you so flipping exhausted! I've never been so tired in all my life as I was in the first trimester.

I've also been amazed how it affects every single part of your body... even parts you didnt think it would. My hospital visit today was for a corneal ulcer in my eye, caused by dry eye... which is caused by pregnancy! Yay! I never thought my eyes would be affected by pregnancy I have to say!!

Hi KitKat. I could have written this post myself. I ended up at the doctors, waited 4 weeks for a referral, in the meantime told my midwife ("wait for the referral") so waited.. waited.. then the mental health nurse was a waste of time. Just gave me a number for 'self referral' for talking therapy which she didn't seem to know much about ("when would I be seen?") No advice. No follow up. I felt really let down by the professionals, as I feel like I needed help. Just trying to deal with it by myself now. One day at a time and focusing on the positives as much as possible. It does feel quite lonely, but I guess you can see from the other posters that you are not alone.