When did you tell the kids you were pregnant?

[KimKurl]

13 weeks pregnant and had my 12 week scan which looks great. Want to tell DSD as she's only young and desperate for a baby brother or sister. She's going to be so happy! Thing is we wanted to wait a bit longer, but are planning on telling DPs family this weekend. Due to mutual links his ex (DSDs mum) is likely to find out and is malicious enough to tell DSD. Is 13 weeks to early to tell a 6 year old? I would hate to have that special moment taken away from us. Hmm... dilemma!

Had to tell my 5 year old early on cos i was violently ill & unable to move from the get go...also ended up with a nice bloat tummy 🙈 this led to me then having to tell my folks a lot earlier than planned because my DD just couldn't contain herself 😂😂

I'd tell her, now you've had the scan. That was when I told ds but he was 3,and wanted to know why all his friends had babies at their houses and he didn't. Finally I could tell him I was growing one too.

13/14 weeks, couldn't wait another minute, we were SO excited.

Ah so it's fairly normal to tell early then? They couldn't check for downs as baby wouldn't keep still so having a quadruple test instead at 16 weeks, results probably at 18 weeks and couldn't bare to wait this long to tell people!

We told our DD who’s 4 after the 12 week scam. Like a previous poster I was suffering from severe morning sickness so felt she needed to know why & it gave her something to be excited about while mummy was useless
I’m now 33 weeks and it’s been a long time for her, we get asked a lot when baby’s coming. Didn’t want her to find out from anyone other than us though so would do the same again

We told my DS at about 13 weeks. He's 9 and I just felt he would need the extra time to get his head around it. I also wasn't sure how much longer I'd get away with it with my expanding waist line!

I help off telling dd1 about dd2 u il after the 20 week scan. We got bad news and had a tfmr. Dd1 was only young but had no understanding that we had lost a baby and so struggled seeing us grieve. With ds we told dd1 at 10 weeks (when we found out he was a boy) which actually helped when we later lost him at 14 weeks as she understood that the baby died and was able to grieve with us.

I’m sure your pregnancy will be absolutely fine but many people hold off because they worry something might go wrong so I thought I’d give you our perspective of telling vs not telling and then things not going well.

I told my son at 12 weeks because we were in Disneyland and had to explain why mummy wasn’t going on any rides. Some people say it’s best to wait until 20 weeks because of the anomaly scan but I think it’s up to you

I told my ex before I told my son out of curiosity so he didn’t find out 2nd hand from anyone and say anything nasty but literally I’m pregnant and will be telling DS next week.

We told DD1 after the first scan

We have had previous miscarriages, but still told our DS after the 12 week scan - he's 6 too. We didn't make a massive thing of it though just in case. My biggest fear was not telling him and someone who knew innocently saying something in front of him. We weighed it up and decided telling him was the best idea.

I'm now 29 week and he cant wait.

We told them early but only AFTER telling their mother as a courtesy.

I found out my ex's wife was pregnant from my five year old. It's not a nice feeling so when we were o he other side of that coin I insisted we tell her first.