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Pregnant & need to attend a funeral

36 replies

Mum8515 · 01/05/2018 20:54

Hi, I'm 10wks & there's been a close family death. Been reading lots about people say pregnant women shouldn't attend funerals Confused something about bad luck/spirits.
Wasn't sure on what to do? If I was to go I would just be going to the crematorium & not going to see the body.

Our family doesn't know I'm pregnant yet waiting to tell them at 12weeks so can't really ask anyone if I should attend or not.

Anyone? X

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AuditAngel · 01/05/2018 20:58

I'm sorry, I don't want to suggest that some of your families traditions are outspdated, but pregnant women can attend funerals. I suppose in Victorian times, when women might have been more "delicate" things might have been different. Of course, if you have any problems with the pregnancy, do what feels right

Mannix · 01/05/2018 21:00

It's fine for you to go OP. I'm sorry for your loss.

Popadoodledoo · 01/05/2018 21:01

I went to my grandads when j I was 16week with now ds2. He's 8 month and on the 95rh percentile.

Never heard anything like it beforeConfused

Summer1986 · 01/05/2018 21:01

I had friends try to suggest that I shouldn't attend a funeral whilst pregnant, they are from a different culture to me.
I attended a funeral with another friend who was also pregnant. We both work in healthcare so encountering death is unavoidable.
It's all to do with how seriously you take superstition/old wives tales.

PodgeBod · 01/05/2018 21:01

I attended 3 funerals in my last pregnancy, it's fine, don't worry

AnneWiddecombesHandbag · 01/05/2018 21:02

I went to my oh aunts funeral at 39 weeks. All was fine.

FlaviaAlbia · 01/05/2018 21:02

That is an utterly bonkers theory Confused
I think you should step away from Google or you're going to have a very anxious pregnancy.

If you really need reassurance, I went to DMIL's wake, viewed her body and then went to her funeral when I was pregnant. No ill effects. Not attending would have been disrespectful and unkind.

ReggaetonLente · 01/05/2018 21:03

I think that’s a load of rubbish, sorry to be so blunt. What on earth do you think will happen?

I’m 25 weeks. I’ve spent the last month in a hospice, I was by my dad’s side when he passed away and I’ll 100% be going to his funeral. And if his spirit is there, which I hope it will be, I know he’ll bring nothing but good luck and happiness to me and my baby.

Rainatnight · 01/05/2018 21:03

That is a bonkers theory. Pregnancy and dying are all part of life, and there's nothing about dying that's 'catching'.

'In the midst of life we are in death', etc.

Highfever · 01/05/2018 21:03

Sadly my sister and I had an unfortunate habit of killing family members off when expecting. Between us we have 8 children.

Personally found the smells of other mourners the worse thing.

Phillipa12 · 01/05/2018 21:05

My twin sister was 18 weeks pregnant with twins when she attended my dds funeral, shes fine as are her twins who are now 3, i would step away from google.

Claire90ftm · 01/05/2018 21:06

I think you'll regret it if you don't attend, especially since its someone close. It sounds like a silly superstition. I'm sorry for your loss Flowers

rotavixsucks · 01/05/2018 21:06

Unless you are really superstitious I would go. I attended a funeral at 39 weeks and also spent several weeks in hospital with a severely ill relative-myself and dd are none the worse for it.

mimibunz · 01/05/2018 21:08

Seriously?

SoyDora · 01/05/2018 21:10

I’m sorry for your loss.
Of course it’s fine. That is one of the mist ridiculous things I’ve heard. Are you particularly superstitious?

Hoppinggreen · 01/05/2018 21:10

I refused to attend my fathers funeral when I was 8 months pg - but that’s because he was an arsehole

NorthernLurker · 01/05/2018 21:12

This can't be real. Surely nobody who's going to be responsible for a child could be so daft?

Jackiebrambles · 01/05/2018 21:13

I’ve literally never heard of this!

Weirdly I attended my grandads funeral at 7 months pregnant and then pregnant with my second child my Nan died so I attended her funeral.

The circle of life and all that!

My son has my grandad’s name and I’ll always remember that I had the bump when we said goodbye.

Penfold007 · 01/05/2018 21:15

I've never heard that. I've been to several funerals whilst pregnant and been to others where pregnant women attended. It's fine, go if you want to.

Flatwhite32 · 01/05/2018 21:15

I went to my Gran's funeral at 13 weeks. I have never heard of pregnant people not going to funerals because of bad spirits!

lifechangesforever · 01/05/2018 21:17

Another one who went to a funeral pregnant. Never heard of such a superstition Confused

TellyCushion · 01/05/2018 21:19

Don't be silly.

Millypad · 01/05/2018 21:24

I’m 13 weeks and have attended 2 so far

Aylarose · 01/05/2018 21:34

My sis-in-law attended my Gran's funeral at 6 weeks pregnant, he's 5 months now and wonderful!

shebagthehag · 01/05/2018 21:43

I attended my grandfathers funeral less than a week before my due date and dd is perfectly fine 5 years later ... never heard of such codswallop!