Just found out, terrified by alcohol info and poss of miscarriage

[barristermum]

Hello All,
Am just about to enter week 5 after beginning to believe I wd never get pg w/o medical intervention. Had given up and was resigned to booking appt to discuss next step so in middle of W3, not knowing, had a day with a friend of food, theatre and drinking - no more than bottle and half in total over 14 hours, and then 2 days later a further bottle over similar timespan, but after reading all there is to read out there am convinced have permanently damaged baby or will imminently miscarry. Was so so thrilled and now so so scared. Needless to say have completely given up ever since test but wanted to tell SOMEONE I was pregnant and anyone how scary it was. Have I ruined everything?
Any words of comfort/reassurance/woteva?

Please don't worry. I bet about a gazillion people come on here now and tell tales of being paralytic many times before finding out they were pregnant and their babes were fine. I found out I was preg with dd1 after New Year and hadn't I put some away that NY Eve! Dd1 is currently sitting in front of me gabbling away about the Eurovision song contest (5 years old) Sure you'll be fine. Now put your feet up enjoy the buzz of finding out and prepare yourself for the endless worrying that parenthood brings

Hi and congratulations. Please dont worry, it is so common for people to drink before they know they are pregnant.

now I dont understadnt he science, but Im pretty sure that the baby wont have even impanted yet and therefore anything you eat or drink wont pass via the placenta anyway. I took some medication I shouldnt have when I was 6 weeks and didnt know, and the gp told me this, so really try not to worry.

Sounds like you tried hard to get pregnant so try to enjoy it

Try not to worry - hard not too I know. I was in your shoes about a year ago, and now have a happy healthy DD. Remember also that a large no of pgs are unplanned, and drink without knowing they are pg , and again have healty babies.

You will be absolutely fine

I went out to celebrate Hallowe'en a few years ago (Friday night) and got extremely drunk. I couldn't understand why I was being so sick though - I never used to get sick from drinking.
I found out on the Monday that I was pregnant.

My mum did a similar thing when she was pregnant with my now 18yo sister (who is very intelligent, by the way )

Congratulations, you must be over the moon. Don't worry about the wine. I think I had a big binge drinking session in the early weeks with all my three pregnancies(before I realised I was pregnant). My three were all fine.

It will all be fine. Just enjoy your exciting news!

Congratulations!! Not a problem at this stage, as far as I know. As Kezza says, the placenta hasn't developed yet so nothing can be transferred to the baby at this point. I got horrendously drunk just before I realised I was pg with ds and I can promise you it has not made any difference as far as I can tell - he is a healthy, bright little boy.

found out i was pregnant with my first about January 7th ...had spent all of xmas, new year and the time in between, drinking , eating everything, and having a goood old time......had no idea i could be pregnant as had only tried once! anyhoo, that baby is now a strapping 7 1/2 year old...once i found out i stopped all alcohol, ate sensibly, and carried on with the folic acid

if you do , god forbid,miscarry, then it will not be because you had a few drinks.. x congratulations and try not to worry

WOW! Not even my Mum responds that quickly with support and kind words. That placenta bit chimes with some of what I've read and I will cling to that and try to read no more of the horror stories.

We had been trying for 18 months but I was pessimistic as so many friends have had such heartrending problems, my DH is late forties, and I have never had a regular cycle no matter whether I was at a thin or fat stage and now is a self-loathing fat stage - still nothing like pg to make you commit to healthy eating!

think i almost pickled DS before i found out!! Please don't worry (although you will) and try to relax. Now you know do all the folic acid/healthy eating etc - congrats!

I'm another one who found out I was pg after christmas and New year (explains annual rise in birth rate in sept and oct!) and so far (I'm 21+5) everything's fine. I too had been trying for 18 months and I was just starting down the fertility clinic route. I got pg after a particularly boozy Christmas, I carried on drinking throughout New Year despite nagging pains which I now know were implantation pains. I went out to two parties in early Jan and got quite shredded, then found out I was pg. Nearly fell over with shock! Echoing what everyone else has said, one or two slip ups won't do any harm, all the scary foetal alcohol stories are based on people who glug a bottle of vodka a day (or something!) You'll be fine!

I had a terrible hangover when I got a postive test with my dd! She's a rather fabulous two year old who is more agile than a cat and never stops talking!