Baby is 4 & 1/2 months and I'm pregnant again!

[EllieRosesMammy]

Hi everyone just looking for some general advice. I have a daughter who is 4 and a half months old and I've just found out I'm pregnant again. It wasn't planned, we did use the morning after pill (Levonelle) about 48 hours after sex but hey-ho it didn't work.
I'm really conflicted about this pregnancy, I feel so guilty about possibly having a new baby while my daughter is still little - I've calculated my due date to be 31st December (a week after her 1st birthday). I'm also worried about the risks involved with becoming pregnant so soon after giving birth. I was high risk with my daughter due to 3 previous miscarriages, I also suffered with awful hyperemesis gravidarum and SPD with her and had to go on maternity leave at 36 weeks.

Has anything similar happened to anyone else and what was your outcome?

B x

Yup I’m in the same boat! DS is 7 months and I’m 21 weeks pregnant! So they’ll be less than a year apart 🙈🙈 it’s going to be very tough but we are rolling with it and baby no 2 will be very much loved!

There's 11 months between my two. Dd turned one last week and ds turned 3 weeks Monday just gone.
It's hard. But worth it. You need to make the best decision for you. Our contraceptive failed and ds kept himself a secret until 24 weeks. I was still bleeding etc no bump. An I did think about adoption, abortion. But looking at him now, I feel vile for thinking it he's just perfect. Good luck mama x

I was in your position 7 years ago. My eldest two children are 11 months apart. I'm not going to lie to you, it's tough, especially in the early days when you have two babies who are completely dependent on you, yet both with very very different needs. But, they are the best of friends, it is easy to organise days out because they both enjoy the same kind of things, they have friends in common, they share everything, they play together really well. In fact it was dc3 who is 4 years younger than her nearest sibling who threw the spanner in the works.

Try to enjoy this precious time with your baby now before the new baby comes. Nap with your baby in the day - it is super tiring being pregnant and looking after a baby. Try out double pushchairs well in advance. (Best one we had was the Out and About Nipper). Take any help you are offered. Try to get your baby into a good sleeping routine before the new baby arrives, and get your dp used to doing bedtimes well in advance.

Enjoy it. It's one crazy ride, but it fluies by.

Oh and be prepared for a quick birth this time round. Apparently fast births are pretty common when you have babies in quick succession. It was true for me. My second arrived after about 30 minutes of active labour, with just one push!

Gosh what a tough decision OP. I completely agree with above posters that close age gaps can work really well. It's the HG I would be worried about, as there is a high chance of getting it again. I have had HG in my 2nd pregnancy and my daughter is 2, no denying how tough it has been, I was stuck in bed for about a month with the dizziness/sickness and was very lucky to have lots of family help as I couldn't really look after myself, let alone her. I also felt guilty about the months I missed out on with her (though she's fine and had lots of family attention). You may be lucky and escape HG this time, but the stats for it recurring are high.
Really wish you all the best whatever you decide.

You'll have a 13 month gap, which is what I had. It was initially hard (understatement) but my kids are very close now and I honestly think it's easier in the long run vs larger age gaps. Having said that, you need to do what works for your family. Good luck whichever way you go xxxx

Thanks everyone!
I've always said I want my little one to have a sibling but I didn't plan on it being this soon🙈 the only thing I'm worrying about is my daughter not getting my full attention when baby no.2 comes along, but then again I suppose she's too young to even realise and I know I'd be able to give them both equal love and attention. I think my partner is leaning towards abortion, he did the same when I first told him about our daughter and when I told him no he threw a massive strop and didn't even get happy or excited till I was about 17 weeks gone🙄 he's a brilliant dad now though so I know he would come to terms with this baby soon enough too. I'm still having doubts though so I guess I'll have to do some more thinking😖 x