will bridesmaids dress fit at 11 weeks?!

[birdseed]

Am currently 7 weeks and jeans a little tight when button done up. Am bridesmaid to little sis in 3 1/2 weeks time and will be 11 weeks by then. Usually a size 10 and dress we bought weeks ago is too.

Haven't done this pregnancy malarky before so don't know when you start getting significantly bigger....

...am I likely to fit my bridemaid's dress?!
...am I likely to have a little bump by then or is it too early?!

....and should I tell my parents and sister beforehand or leave it till after?
I would leave it till after, but the menu is pate for starter, lamb (?could be bit rare) and cheesecake!....so might not be able to eat 2 or 3 of the courses! ( don't know if cheesecake has raw egg or not)

I don't want to steal her limelight in anyway by telling her or my parents before the wedding, but don't want there to be a fuss if I hardly eat anything.

Oh the dilemas!....any thoughts/advice gratefully accepted!

I think really you should tell! I think they will prob guess on the day otherwise as you won't be eating much, drinking at all. There is a pos the dress may be a bit tight but all depends really. some women show early others don't. I have a friend who was showing at nine weeks. She is tiny though!

I would n't have had much of a bump but my boobs had got bigger by then

Is it quite tight-fitting round your middle birdseed? Could you ask the dressmaker to let it out a little (perhaps without your sister knowing?)

Re the meal - I would just say you are too excited to eat much, or get chatting with the person who is sitting next to you, push your food round your plate then hand it over ... shouldn't worry about the cheesecake, I'm sure it doesn't contain raw egg. Tbh I doubt anyone will notice.

And congratulations, what a lovely sister you are to not want to detract from your dsis's day

Bear in mind you might start with morning sickness between now and then - easily explainable as "coming down with a bug" or "ate something dodgy the night before"

My bust got bigger quite quickly. I am normally a size 6/8 and am only just (at 20 weeks) out of my size 8 clothes. So at 11 weeks, you will probably be okay, but you might have problems breathing easily if the dress is tight!

If I were you, I'd ask your sister to arrange for a vegetarian meal and explain that you're pg if necessary. I would leave telling your parents until after the wedding so as not to detract from your sister's glory...

Oops! And congratulations...

I too was tending towards telling them, but dh sayd that that means that I will have to tell my little bro too and then loads of people will know and it will be extra stress on my mum who is organising the wedding.

Hmm!

Thank you for your comments

I was bridesmaid for my sister when I was 14 weeks, we had ordered gorgeous strappless dresses with bones in the front......I had to have the bones taken out, had to have straps made (my boobs were enormous!) and let out at the seams. However this was my 3rd baby and I was a size 14 so a bit more meat on me to start with if you know what I mean.

I think because its your first you may be ok. Incidently my sister was pregnant when she got married (12 weeks) and the only change in her was her boobs were bigger (her first baby) and no neither of the babies were planned!!!

oh and try and have someone to keep a bag of "goodies" for you it takes a long time for photos etc to be done and I was saved by my cousin having some chocolate bars in her car as I was feeling rather starving and sick at the same time!

congrats!!!!!

you could also say you are on anti biotics to hide the fact you are not drinking

dress really depends on your shape and the cut - I wasn't showing at all at 11wks so you may get away with it.

Shame about the pâté (ask for the veggie option or pass it to DH), but pink lamb is fine and I'll put money on the cheesecake not being eggy.

wow, lots more messages since I started typing mine! Thank you all!

Dress isn't too tight fitting around middle and the bust bit was a bit big. Had got a bust enhancing bra .... but think that I won't be needing that anymore! Just an off the peg dress, but it is at my parents which is a long way away and so won't be able to try it until the thurs before the sat wedding. And they have discontinued that dress so can't try it on in nearby shop!

Thank you for all your comments.

Maybe I will wait and see how well/unwell I feel nearer the time. Might need to avoid walking down the aisle with her if I get bad morning sickness!

Birdseed you must be due late dec? I'm due in dec too. come and join the dec ante natal thread. Loads of support from lots of mums to be!

thanks bambino1. I think I'm due 31st dec, but gp thinks 30th, but guess what does a day matter! I have been posting on the new year thread, but might well pop in to the dec one!...thank you!
Hope things are going well with your preg. When are you due?

15th Dec! Suffering badly with this preg. not enjoying much at the mo but hopefully hit blooming stage soon! Good luck with everything.

I think you'll be ok as long as their isn't twins in there!!!!..

I guess that if I am not likely to be showing significantly then I will still fit my dress and so can play it either way...more deliberation in the pipeline I feel!

can't get my sister to order me veggie as my parents are organising the wedding as she lives a long way from them and is 25. So would have to tell them rather than her if I do it any way round!

could you ask them to send the dress down, on the pretext that you are worried it's too big and then you could get it altered the week before?