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Fear of having second baby

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Justinecase1985 · 25/04/2018 20:10

I don’t feel I have anyone else that understands what I’m going through atm. My DH is great, as are my mum and friends but they aren’t “in the moment” if that makes sense. I sugarcoat everything when I try and be honest about how I’m feeling anyway...

Whenever I’m on my own I find myself really panicking about the birth. It’s worse at night. It’s my second baby and whilst it wasn’t a pleasant delivery (induction, forceps, year and three days in labour) it didn’t put me off. It’s not the actual birth bit.

I worry that I will die in birth. This never worries me before. I am so scared of leaving my daughter. I know the risks are low but I am just terrified. Last time I don’t think the thought even popped into my head.

I worry about what will happen to my daughter if I go into labour/ have to go into hospital unexpectedly and my husband is away. My mum is a 30min drive away but easily 1-1.5hour in rush hour. She’s very clingy and I fully admit I am overly protective and haven’t left her with anyone but close family.

I had to stay in hospital for 3 days after her birth because I had an infection that couldn’t be pin pointed. I know that’s a very short period of time in the scheme of hospital stays and i was actually very lucky but the thought of staying away from DD for that period of time works me up.

Just writing this feels therapeutic.

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Justinecase1985 · 25/04/2018 20:11

*tear not a year!!

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mouseistrapped · 25/04/2018 20:18

I had my baby on Saturday - I had a little cry as I dropped off my son to my parents as I had the same fear.
(I was induced)

Once I was in the process , my brain was focusing on other more rational thoughts. It's natural to feel like that, but I remind myself of a probably similar statistic , you are
More likely to die driving to the airport than on the flight.

It's really really really unlikely.

Mybabystolemysanity · 25/04/2018 20:22

Can you have a chat with your midwife about how you're feeling? I'm 12 weeks away with my second and while not worried about the birth, my mental health has been generally terrible since DD was born. The midwife I've had has been really good this time around. Think about talking to your health visitor also. She's there just as much for you as your first child. You can do this!

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