Is there any hope?

[KeefBurtain]

I got a positive pregnancy test on the 6th March. Last bleed was the 4th February but wasn’t a ‘proper’ period, so Because of this i was sent for an early scan. Scan on 5th April showed little baby with perfect little beating heart measuring 6+6. I was a little concerned as I expected to be 8+4 but sonographer said I probably ovulated later, or that the baby could catch up to match my dates by my 12 week scan.

Fast forward to Saturday, I woke up to brown blood. Went to the epau who said it could be normal but have booked me a scan for tomorrow.

Since Saturday the bleeding has got gradually worse, turning pink then red. No clots, just like a period. Mostly when I wipe but there was a small amount of blood on the pad this morning. I have hardly any pain at all, a few little niggles but nothing like I would expect to feel if I was miscarrying. Not having to take any painkillers.

Is there any hope that this isn’t a miscarriage? I would be 9+5 by scan dates but 11+2 by my lmp. My mind is flickering from accepting that it’s all over to maybe there’s a chance it’s not.

Just want to add that I’ve had no symptoms at all throughout the pregnancy but woke up this morning feeling slightly nauseous (maybe with worry?)

Thank you for reading.

I had pain free bright red bleeds at 9 and 11 weeks plus other brown/pink discharge. Babies were fine - currently 34+4 with twin boys.

It was caused by a subchorionic haematoma and all cleared up by 16 weeks.

I had quite a few bleeds in the early stages of pregnancy (although some were linked to flying, which apparently isn’t a thing) but baby was fine throughout 😊 hopeful for a positive outcome for you

Thank you for you reply. I have been googling and have read about SCH but they seem to be quite rare.
Did they pick yours up on a scan? How long did the bleeds last? This is my 4th day of bleeding so far.

I’m just really worried. This is my 4th baby and after 3 textbook pregnancies I feel like I’m out of my depth.

Thank you @flyingchimps.

There is definitely hope as plenty of people bleed (sometimes for known and sometimes for unknown reasons as in my case) during the first 12 weeks and have successful outcomes. The reality though is that it could go either way. I have had 2 successful pregnancies and 3 miscarriages and I had early bleeding in all five. Try and stay positive (so hard to do, I know , I was a wreck each time I bled), keep yourself as distracted/busy as you can today and tomorrow will soon be here. Sending huge hugs as I truly understand how awful and hard these unknown moments can be. X

I had two massive bleeds of about an hour or two in length at 9 and 11 weeks (filling a pad in 20 minutes) and then spotting/small bleeds on and off from 7-15 weeks.

It was picked up at the second scan.

@miki123 thank you for your kind words and sharing your experience.

I have a 10 month old ds so am very distracted - if it wasn’t for looking after him I don’t know how I’d be coping right now.

I’m nervous about going for my scan tomorrow - it feels a bit of a Schrödinger’s cat moment - and I keep thinking that I don’t want to go as then I’ll know for sure if my baby has died. Sod’s law they only had tomorrow available which also happens to be my birthday. Luckily my partner can have the morning off of work to come with me.

@claireb83 thank you - that doesn’t sound similar to what I’m experiencing but it still gives me a shred of hope.

Ah, good luck Keef. I hope it's just one of those things 💐

Thank you @brutusmcdogface. Me too

@Keef I'm on my 5th day of bleeding like you described and have a scan this afternoon. I feel exactly the same about not really wanting to go as don't want to be told my baby has died. I had an absolute textbook pregnancy with my dd so like you, freaked out by this. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!

@balalala I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you too. Please update if you feel you can.

Not sure if my news is going to be good - I’ve lost a few clots and just had a gush of fluid similar to when your waters break. Still not having much pain, just niggly cramps but I’ve given up hope now ☹️

Passing huge clots now and lots of blood. I’m so sad this is happening. There’s no pain though other than in my heart ☹️

Oh I'm so sorry to read that. I hope desperately that everything works out OK. I had good news this afternoon that all is looking on track so please don't loose hope just yet. Thinking of you.

I’m genuinely really pleased for you @balalalala and wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy x

Thank you keef I'm keeping my fingers tighty crossed for you too

Unfortunately it wasn’t good news for me. I was admitted to hospital last night due to blood loss. Scan today showed baby had died a few weeks ago, which deep down I sort of knew anyway.

I’ve lost so much blood and tissue but haven’t passed the sac yet. Hoping they’ll let me go home soon so I can pass it where I feel comfortable.

If this thread has done anything it has shown me how there is no definite when it comes to this. It really is just chance.

I wish you all healthy pregnancies and hope you get to give your babies lots of cuddles xxx

Oh I'm so sorry to this. Please look after yourself xx

Oh keef, I'm so very sorry to hear it. Look after yourself 😔💐

I’m so sorry for your loss. Your story is similar to mine in many ways. I have three children, and my DH and I were trying for a fourth. I became pregnant and was approaching my 12 week scan, but started bleeding -very light and brown at first, with no pains/cramps, but then after a few days, it became pink and then red.

A scan revealed that our baby had stopped developing at around 8 weeks. With hindsight, my pregnancy tiredness had reduced but I hadn’t really realised what that meant. About 5 days after the scan, I went into a kind of labour, and passed the gestational scan. We opened it and saw our little baby, which was really sad but I’m glad we saw him/her. We buried the baby in a huge planter in the garden, and planted a white rose bush on top.

This was last May, and I am now 30 weeks pregnant. I hope you have a similar happy outcome. In case it helps, I felt so devastated at the time of the miscarriage, but have moved on now and feel excited about our new baby.

Keef I am so so sorry to read your update and you are in my heart and thoughts.

Thank you @littlecabbage for sharing your story.
Dp has said that we can try again as soon as I’m ready but I don’t think I can without feeling like I’m replacing the baby I lost. I want that one. I want my baby back.

That is completely understandable. We waited around 6 months before trying again. I know what you mean about wanting that baby, and not a replacement.

I hope that things get easier with time for you, but take all the time you need to grieve for this baby.