Found out I’m pregnant last night. Still think it’s a dream

[MadeFromMelodies]

Good morning everyone,

This is my first official post on Mumsnet but I’ve been a bit of a lurker for many years now.

6 weeks pregnant - not planned - terrified and not really sure what I’m doing!

I’m 29, from London and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years this month. We rent a flat and make do with making enough to get by. We definitely were not planning to have kids but, at the same time, if it happened, we agreed we’d come through with it.

What’s prompted me to sign up and post is that I found out (after an instinctive “I can’t sleep. Something is definitely up” pregnancy test at midnight) that I’m pregnant.

It’s a weird one because over the last 10-15 years, I’ve done the same test and always had negative, even when I’ve been massively convinced I’m pregnant. Seeing those 2 lines pop up made me think the test was malfunctioning but then it didn’t budge. (I used 1 Boots branded test).

The first day of my period was March 12th, so my estimated due date (according to the NHS online due date calculator) is December 17th. I’m typing this and I literally cannot quite believe it.

I’m honestly a complete newbie to pregnancy and haven’t even changed a nappy before. My partner is acting very cool right now but my head is running riot with questions and thoughts; “what if I miscarry?” “What vitamins should I take?” “Where do we get support?” I couldn’t sleep until 4am as I was full of anxiety and excitement.

Apologies for the long thread; I feel a little alone and overwhelmed. Not so sure where to even begin.

Any advice for new mums and what to do would be massively appreciated! I write this as I’m on the loo, having my 3rd pee of the morning - better get used to this! x

Wow! Congrats! I was you about 9 months ago and am now feeding my squishy little baby.

First of all, don't worry! You will pick things up as you go along. First steps are to book a gp appointment and start taking folic acid asap (I went to the supermarket and bought a pregnancy supplement that contains it). The gp will point you in the direction of the midwife service that you need to attend. Nothing much happens in the first few weeks so it may take up to the 12 week scan for you to believe you are pregnant.

Try not to worry about miscarriage. It does happen but there is not much you can do about it.

Steer clear of alcohol and cigarettes. Limit your caffeine intake and watch out for foods that are not advised like soft cheeses, rare steak, pate etc.

Congratulations! This is the most exciting scary time ever and if you’re anything like me your emotions will be ALL over the place. All you can do is let it sink in which may take longer than you think it should...don’t beat yourself up if you suddenly feel down or less excited...it’s such a crazy time. Make a doctors appointment and they’ll refer you to the midwives etc. for booking appointments and so on. Try to enjoy and make sure you’re taking folic acid or pregnancy vitamins with folic acid included. Drink lots of water! How exciting!!xx

Hey, I’m 31, already have a daughter from a previous relationship she’s 9. I found out about a week ago I was pregnant and I still feel the same and it was so long ago before I’m starting again!!! I can’t sleep either... you feel like your the only one up 😂
I’m about 5 weeks so we are quite close!! You will take to it easily, it’s just natural for us! We thought it would take 6 months to Year to conceive as I’d just come off the pill and we are saving to move into our new home next year! If you need to chat then pm anytime :) xx

Oooo congratulations. Scary time isn’t is. But also very exciting and considering it wasn’t planned, you seem to be accepting it very well.
Like a previous poster said, definitely take folic acid, vitamin D is a good one too.
Book yourself in with your docs or self refer to a midwife (depending on your area) for a booking in appt.
I’m from Brighton so not far from you. Come and join us on the December Babies thread in the ante natal bit. There’s a couple of other ladies due the same day as you.
We’ve got a lovely group of women full of support and we all fear a miscarriage.
It’s great to have people to discuss it with that know what your going through. Good luck x x x x