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Relationship - FTM dad doesn't want to know

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Popsjjx · 22/04/2018 18:34

ong story
I'm 27 weeks pregnant. This pregnancy was unplanned and not greatly received by myself.
My partner - asked to have children and I said no. We hadn't been together long, and I gave my reasons, he asked again and Again, I said no.
I fell pregnant about two months later.

I was pretty gutted - I'm pro choice on abortion so, if it's for you it's for you. If not then ok.

I chose to keep this baby, I had to make that choice alone. Then my partner comes along and his whole attitude changed, told me to get rid. That he wasn't ready. This was in November, it's now April and I haven't seen him. (He's army not away on tour about 2hr drive away) We'd been in contact via text and calls - but even that was limited. In the last two months he's just messed my head.

He ignored me for weeks, sent me valentines flowers. Then ignored me again and sent me Mother's Day flowers. When he doesn't even want a part of this. He told me he support me and be there and I've looked crazy texting calling. - he's old enough to know better.

He's now chosen to not speak to me at all, and I feel like no one knows how I feel.

None of my friends have been through this, they've never had to go through a pregnancy without the father and constantly feel so unworthy and low.

I'm my own worth enemy I check his WhatsApp, I check messenger to see his last online. I keep fighting the urge to text him because he won't answer. He blocked my number so I can't call him, but kept me on WhatsApp and fb ( I've since deleted him) I feel crazy.

I know nothing about him really or his family, we met in June and I fell in the October so you can imagine how mental it is, I know there's no such thing as a right time.

He's had every scan date too, and ignored me leading up to it or during that period. I've been so stressed. So stressed.

Then when I did manage to say something, his answer was - I didn't force you to carry it.
I'm not doing anything wrong.

I hate that I'm still trying when he's made it so clear!!

The whole time he was telling me loved and cared about me and he'd support me

He's on tinder and pof.
ConfusedAngry

Any advice, has anyone else had to deal with it?

OP posts:
Addy2 · 22/04/2018 20:36

Oh my goodness, OP, he has put you through it, hasn't he? What a selfish man-child! It is clearly his fault, by having sex with you he made the choice to have the baby as much as you did. If I were you, I'd ask mumsnet to move this to relationships as you'll probably get more traffic there and there are people with more knowledge in this area. I don't know what to advise myself but did not want to read and run. Sorry I can't be of more help! Be strong, I'm sure someone more useful than I will be along soon. Flowers

doesthisnamelookgoodonme · 23/04/2018 08:03

Sorry lovely but if he's on tinder and pof then he's not your partner, he's potentially someone else's. You need rid, you are carrying his baby yet he's blocked you from being able to call him? Please get rid xx

beforeigoinsane · 24/04/2018 16:50

I am a recent ex army wife. This story is very similar to mine. Stupidly I took him back though. Please stay away from him. My husband has put me through hell and I've learned that a lot of them are very similar in attitude and there is no changing them.

ferntwist · 24/04/2018 18:02

OP my heart goes out to you. He is toxic. Cut him out of your mind and don’t let him mess with your head or waste any more of your time.

Aw12345 · 24/04/2018 21:28

You poor person, what a shocking excuse of a man.

When your beautiful baby comes you'll be over the moon and he'll miss out on a new tiny person.

All the best with everything, stay strong and don't let him mess you about xx

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