Excuse to say no to a wedding abroad

[BonsaiBean]

Hi everyone,

Please help!

My aunt is getting married abroad later in the year and I will be too pregnant to fly at that time. She needs to know who is coming by May but I’m not pregnant enough to start telling anyone yet.

It will be a close family wedding so I can’t get away with telling only her. I also can’t say we have another holiday booked because we’ve known about this since last summer.

What can I do?! I will be grateful for any ideas!

Thank you!

It's you aunt, can't you just tell her?

I wouldn’t claim financial hardship as someone might offer to contribute. Something work related perhaps? Like you can’t get the holiday because Peggy on your team already booked it off, DH has a business conference, the company won a new contract and have said no annual leave that month, you have mandatory training etc. etc.

It’s your aunt though, could you not tell her and just ask her to keep it quiet as you won’t be announcing to the rest of the family until after the 12 week scan.

It's abroad, just no is fine.

I agree. "I'm really sorry, we can't come" is fine! Congratulations ♥

just tell her, as above "It’s your aunt though, could you not tell her and just ask her to keep it quiet as you won’t be announcing to the rest of the family until after the 12 week scan."

I would just explain the situation in truth May. Be honest. Ask her not to meantioned it to others.

Thanks everyone. The work excuse is a good one.

I can’t tell her because there is no way it would be kept quiet and if i was to have a miscarriage then of course everyone would know that too. I have a huge extended family and we would rather keep this to ourselves until the 12 week scan.

Can you have a 'non-serious health issue'?

Maybe you could be a bridesmaid at another wedding on the same day?