Husband wants action

[Sharon1983]

I am 11 weeks pregnant been extrememly sick...hospitalised twice and now thankfully starting to feel better. My husband now thinks this is a sign to get some action. Honestly i cant bring myself to it as I’m more concerned about the baby. He does understand but i feel as though im being unfair.
Help!!

1. The baby will be fine.

2. You don't have to have sex unless you want to.

3. You might want to do it while you can.

The baby will be absolutely fine if you have sex - having sex during pregnancy is completely okay and you shouldn't be worried about it on that basis. I do however completely understand if you have zero sex drive and just don't want to do it. DH and I have had sex just once during my pregnancy and I'm now 20 weeks - I think it was around 13/14 weeks that we did it but tbh I've not fancied it again since.

I had HG all throughout my second preganancy and it was horrid. Glad you are beginning to feel better now!

Don't feel pressured to have sex. We didn't at all because a) I was vomiting right up to delivery and b) the smell of other people made my nauseous.

Baby will be absolutely fine unless you have been specifically told not to.

But you don't owe him sex and shouldn't feel bad like he is entitled to it or something. And he definitely shouldn't be making you feel bad for not wanting it!

You're not a wank-aid. Have sex if you fancy it. If you don't, obviously don't!

DP needs to be less insensitive. You've been really ill and need to recover. Being pregnant is a huge physical upheaval and if my DP had been this 'pushy" I'd have sent a strongly worded email explaining that he could wind his neck in!
As if you haven't got enough on your plate!

DH knows its a no go area and is not pushy but he does occasionally make the odd joke. My reply is usually “you will be lucky if i come near you again within the next 2 years!!!”

You’re not his fuck toy. If you feel like sex then go for it, if you don’t then tell him no. He doesn’t need an explanation other than you don’t feel like it.

If he continues to push for it then he’s being rapey, but men aren’t devils as a general rule so he should back off. Have cuddles instead. I personally never felt like being touched full stop at that stage of pregnancy which mustn’t have been easy for OH but he was great about it

39 weeks here and only once since pregnant 🙈 Just really don't fancy it at all - luckily my hubby is a star and isn't bothered in the slightest!

I’m sure he has at least one hand?

I was throwing up for the first 25 weeks so we barely did it. He was so sweet and never pressured me that about once a week I just have him a 'hand' he was perfectly happy with that.
I'm in a lot of pain now at 37 weeks so started doing it again for him.
You absolutely don't have to do anything you don't want to but I like to give him at least something. I know if he suddenly couldn't have sex for months I'd appreciate some attention.

I think it's important for intimacy to keep at it even if you're not always feeling great or in the mood. We really only slowed down the last 3 weeks because I'm so huge now it makes everything more difficult.

Actually if we'd only had sex when I felt well it probably would have only happened 3 times.

Yes I'm glad we did it as much as we could early on (there were six weeks of bleeding where we couldn't), as I'm so big and comfortable now with two weeks to go that mostly I don't feel up for more than cuddling.

Your poor husband

Lucky you ! My husband didn't like having sex when I was pregnant, and towards of the end of the 3 pregnancies the end I was not happy about it!

@LeighaJ there are other ways to be intimate without letting him use your vagina as a wank toy . Unless it’s mutually wanted on both sides then it’s just weird.

For me it’s the other way around in 10 weeks and interested and he just lays there reading his book