Colleague announced pregnancy before me

[KellyKi]

Im around 3 months pregnant, and was going to announce my pregnancy at work today. I came in this morning and my colleague was announcing her pregnancy (brilliant news! I'm so happy for her and think it's fab we are both pregnant at the same time). I know this seems ridiculous, but I feel awkward now announcing my pregnancy. It's not going to be a big announcement. I was just planning on telling people as and when. Thing is, she made a comment about another colleague who just moved departments and is pregnant about how she's 'glad she's not in this office anymore as she didn't want to share the limelight'. It was a lighthearted comment, but I can't help but feel really weird about the whole thing.

Do people really worry about the limelight being on them? Would I really be 'stealing her thunder' as she put it? Should I wait a while and just l leave her to it?

just say snap me too!!! congrats

@TheMerryWidow1 I didn't know what to say as I wasn't expecting it and it threw me off a little!

Dont say anything and wait until she notices

@TinyTear I don't think I could hide my pregnancy for that long 🙈

Maybe don't announce it and just bring it up casually one day you're not stealing her limelight this is your special time too!

@laurexa I just think it's lovely to have someone else pregnant at the same time! I don't see how that can be a bad thing!

I’d just announce it. When I was pregnant with my first another woman in my team was pregnant too and we were two weeks apart, it was so good having each other around to complain to and ask questions about our midwives and general care etc. I wouldn’t take her comment about the limelight too seriously.

And congratulations!

Are big announcements usual in your work? I think I just told the people closer to me until it was clearly visible

I always imagine pregnancy “announcements” in the style of the x-factor voiceover man. Can’t take th seriously.

Most importantly, have you told your boss? Polite to give them the heads up before you make it public as it’s them who will have to deal with the paperwork and mat leave stuff.

I told my boss then let everyone else guess. We had a woman in the office who had been ttc for 6 years with no luck so i gave her space to come to terms with it privately rather than making a big announcement where she’d have to control her expression or dash to the loo for a cry.

@TinyTear they're not, no. She didn't make a big announcement, she was just telling people. Maybe I should've used another word, announcement was just the first that came to mind!

@reallyanotherone I told my boss a few weeks ago as I've been off with bleeding. But thanks for the heads up anyway

I was that person once. I've had a few miscarriages so know how it feels. Seeing people swoon over her has actually made me quite anxious and I'm worried people will be all happy and something will go wrong! I just don't like big announcements so maybe I'll just leave it and tell a couple of people

It's ok... Then I guess you can just casually say wow when are you due? i am due on XX and leave it at that...

@reallyanotherone my boss was the second person to know after my DH! I had recurrent miscarriages so needed extra appointments for the clexane and progesterone so told him straight away... And thanks for the consideration with your colleague, during my MC1 and 2 I had a colleague going on about how great it was to be pregnant and her accident was great and how everyone should be pregnant

Blimey I didn't know being pregnant got you on BGT - limelight lol. There's loads of pregnant women around all the time so she'll have to get used to it. Just tell who you want when you want regardless of what she said, she might have been just having a silly moment - let's blame in on baby brain.

I was pregnant at the same time as a colleague. It was my first, her third. She made everything a competition. Don't be that person.

And congrats!

@cjt110 I'm not that person... did you read my thread?

@hdh747 I know, I was just really happy for her when she told me but didn't want me telling people I'm pregnant to turn in to something negative. I'm quite enjoying nobody knowing so maybe I'll just hold on a little longer!

Yes. And whilst I applaud what you're saying, don't get embroiled into the "She announced before me" bollocks. It must have bothered you to post on here.

And she sounds like the colleague I "shared" my pregnancy with. A nightmare. So just nod and smile.

My colleague was due 3 weeks after me.

I distinctly remember her saying "I might have my baby before you" Me: Well yes you might.
Her "But I have GD, and I'm older so they might induce me before your due date"
Me: (internally - Whoopy fuckin do.)

I'd had all sorts. Whenever someone asked me about my pregnancy, she would interupt and talk all about hers. At the point above, I'd had enough so said "Are you seriously competing with me over when our children are born? Are you really that competitive" She said she was and I replied "No, you're very, very sad"

There's no need to feel awkward about it at all! It's lovely to be pregnant with someone you know- one of my friends is due 10 days before me and it's nice to go through it all together :) You won't be able to hide it for long so just tell people as and when you want too!