Tinder Date with a bonus surprise

[Goddessloverrebelqueen]

So I found out this morning I am 17 days pregnant. These two little lines are all I've got. And I am scared as hell. Because I don't love the father. Hell I barely even know him. How is he going to react? Am I going to be expected to stay in the town I am about to leave? Do I have to determine child support or if I want it? Will he want anything to do with the baby? Will he expect a relationship? Am I doomed to repeat history? Is this little baby going to suffer for my mistake? What will my friends think? Am I going to be a good Mum? Can I teach this kid how to survive in the world? I had an energy drink is that going to affect my baby?
I'm 22 & I am completely unsure of anything other than whilst the timing is not great I want this baby.

Way too many questions...I understand your mind is probably all over the place right now. Congrats all the same and all the best for your journey ahead.

The energy drink won’t harm your baby, just don’t drink anymore. Congrats on the pregnancy . Take a few days to come to terms with the news yourself before telling the Father. Broach the subject with him calmly and only time will tell how he reacts... it’s truly impossible to say and could go either way.

Deep breath.
A energy drink won't hurt your baby but don't drink anymore from now on.
You don't know the father, there's no way of knowing how he will react. I'd take a couple of days then contact him.
His level of involvement or desire to be involved, can't be predicted I'm afraid but regardless he would be required under law to pay child support.
None of us ever know if we will be a good mother, you can only do your best.
Have you rl support? Your mum/friends?
I'd urge you to confide in them.

I had my first child after a short relationship, he wanted nothing to do with me after I told him about the pregnancy. I went on and had the baby regardless and never regretted it. Never had anything to do with his dad but he has a great relationship with my husband. Hopefully he will support you if that's what you want, but be prepared for being a single parent. It's hard at times but rewarding and the good outweighs the bad.
Also, not sure if you know that you date your pregnancy from the date of your last period so you could be more weeks than what you think. x

Thank you but it's definitely April 1. Who could forget being a fool on April Fools I don't regret it but I think I have learnt my lesson

What addicted means is the date your pregnancy from you last period, not when you actually had sex.

Firstly, congratulations. Nobody knows if they will be a good mother or not - we can only do our best.
I was a single parent until i met DP, from when my DS was 6 months. It’s hard but rewarding.
Take some time to take stock, before you tell the father. He will need to pay maintenance but you can’t enforce a relationship with the baby.

Best of luck to you

Yes, so if you can remember the first day of your last period you count that as day 1 of your pregnancy.
Even though you technically weren't pregnant then, that's how pregnancy is dated and how they work out your due date.

Also boring but relevant. If you've had unprotected sex with a stranger I'd be getting tested for std as well.

Take it one step at a time and don’t expect much. The father may not have any interest and whilst in an ideal world he would step up to his responsibility it is just as likely he won’t feel anything towards you or the baby.
You just have to let him decide.

After you have told him you can start to work things out for yourself. You already clearly have strong feelings towards your little one so I bet you will do fine. Good luck!

I also had a Tinder surprise! We’re engaged now and expecting our second Tinder Egg in October!

Told the father after the second round of tests.Long and the short is he doesn't want Speck but I do. I've explained my position he's explained his. He hasn't told me to abort not that I think he was ever gonna be stupid enough to. My sister helped me write a clear message saying I wanted nothing but the signature on the certificate and would not nor would I ever ask for anything else

Std test came back clear. Bloods for HCG hormone will be in Friday. I've made it clear to those who do know that it's secret squirrel on social media until 14 weeks and I've asked for no gifts until 20 weeks to be safe. Came as a bit of a shock to see the positive on the Clear blue test

If he doesn’t plan to be involved think very carefully about putting him on the birth certificate, as it gives him parental responsibility. He could make life very difficult if he chose to.

I had my doubts about even putting him on the certificate and it may be easier to just put father unknown on the certificate but write down the details

If he doesn't want to be involved at all, please bring wary of putting him on the birth certificate, if you do he has PR and can make things very tricky should he want to.
My ds1, not dissimilar circumstances but all very amicable, we decided together not to put his name on as he would have minimal involvement and it could complicate things. I.e with international travel, I have been asked for my sons birth certificate before to prove no one else has PR before getting on a long distance flight.
As it happens he does see ds1 about 3 items a year and has a fun uncle type role which has worked out perfectly for everyone involved.

Agree with others about not putting his name down on the certificate, as once you do he has equal rights to the child as you do and if he's not going to be involved it could prove to be a very unwise decision.

They won't write "unknown", they just leave it blank.

Unless he physically comes with you to register the birth, he can't be on the certificate.

I'd seriously advise leaving it blank.

In Australia, you can register the birth by posts long as mother and father's signatures are on the certificate application. But I am leaving it as Father Unknown because it will mean that BD can live his life his way and I can live my life mine.